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Dating apps are more dangerous than you think

Aperture | August 12, 2025



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Meeting people in real life is hard, maybe harder these days than ever before. When you meet someone in real life and want to ask them on a date, you’re taking a big risk. And we’re all hyper-aware of that risk, well, most of us. The odd thing about this is that even with all of their issues, dating apps seem to work.

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  1. @addicted2caffeine

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    Ohhh I i actually hate asking someone out in public , because I'm aware im over 6ft and 350lbs , and I dont want to make anyone awkward, so I wait until im about to leave and go hey I think you're really cute would you mind if I got your number? Sorry I would have asked sooner but didn't want to corner you whilst you were "insert location" ie stuck on a bus with me. Or stuck at the checkouts. Etc… and I do it after taking a step away or as im standing to get off the bus as i know I'm taking a step away and about to give them space. I'm not scared of rejection but im very cautious of how my demeanor comes across but its also not the instance to shrink my demeanor im trying to put my best self out there.

  2. @addicted2caffeine

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    Hold on. I met my ex online. Although we split and the thought of her now makes my blood boil. I have 2 beautiful kids out of it. Ive met many friends, swings and partners and none i actually regret.

  14. @Jasonbowgaming

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    I may stop doing online dating because is risky and dangerous my friend even warn me and told me that online dating is not a good thing and I should date a person in real life instead of doing online dating

  15. @dont6771

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    I used to have dating apps which are uninstalled now because I already have a boyfriend. Here's a piece of advice, do not install dating apps when you're not wise or old enough to know how predators work. There are only a few that can be trusted. I've heard countless compliments there and multiple offers of a meetup, but I was actually just bored, so those were rejected. I used the app to talk to people and a little bit of harmless flirting (only included sweet small talks, no pictures nor promises) on my part because I know I'll never meet them. That works better when the other person also has a flirty type of a humor. Make sure he/she is not dead serious. Do not engage with just anyone though. There's still a possibility of knowing someone who has a tendency to be obsessed even if you only talked casually once or twice. What do I know? I used it as a talking app anyway lol.

  16. @ThunderCatAR

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    We ourselves become products through Instagram and other apps. Have you gotten famous yet or just harassed all the time? But if a child is like a man can make it in life to 60 years old. It speaks a lot about people that are younger.

  17. @ThunderCatAR

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    It's a waiting game and eventually you'll never meet people in person again. I have a life it's just perspective. But it's reflected from the energy I feel from other people having faith in strangers then they do in themselves.

  24. @LordCrumb-mm7lu

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    Dating apps are just another satanic influence pulling us further away from our humanity. Another satanic influence pulling us further away from God and the divine and sacred.

    The tech developers who make this stuff are evil.

  28. @ConsistentCed

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    I have no dating apps, no social media, dont watch porn. I'm nearly all analog, and I can't tell you how clear my mind is, how much more I've started caring for myself and how high my self respect is. I'm worth way more than a swipe. Plus im a 6'4" gymrat. My value is skyhigh, but heres the important part. My value is skyhigh-to me. I give a fuck what others think of me. Freedom.

  29. @PerthSurfer

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    I met the love of my life on a cruise ship back in the 90's… the organic way. When i lost her to cancer a few years ago i was presented with the nightmare of dating apps. At my age it was immediately obvious the system was after my money and women my age wanted younger guys. Yet as the video said, you are considered weird if you try and ask someone out in real life these days. I think it's a horrible time to be single unless you're female or in the top 10% of guys.

  30. @DiegoFlorescalles

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    I have a coworker jacked up Chad , he’s scoring left and right , multiple choices
    He’s addicted, but I also know 2 other guys , who don’t ever bother , they just too
    Simple looking . I suppose a man s got to know his limitations.

  31. @TheCaptnHammer

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    I just returned to dating after my late wife passed three years ago. We were together since 2005 so it was a shock to try and date again. It feels demeaning to swipe yes or no on someone based on photos and a short bio. I very much dislike it.

  34. @Nuvinci88

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    Think about this girls. The dude you’re getting matched with online can’t get a date. That’s why he’s paying for a dating app. Now you just got matched with a dude that women were avoiding for some reason. Probably because they gave off creeper and incel vibes. And now… that’s your date!!!! Enjoy

  36. @Harold-fc4li

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    Take the good with the bad. You have to go in knowing there are insincere people out there. You also might find someone in a similiar position as you that you wouldnt have had exposure to otherwise.

  38. @Matin1999_T

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    As a person who's living in a close-minded, homophobic country, unfortunately we don't have any better choices than these one-night apps.
    Just imagine how much difficult it is for a gay person like me to find someone to even wait and see what happens next (Do we even love each other? Even if yes, what can we do?).
    It's like people are happy with these one-night hookups while swimming against the tide can bring stigmatizes for them in the society and among our family members and is very risky.
    Let's not forget the fact that it's obviously dangerous to meet strangers whom you've only talked to over the Internet and online chats and that's why in most of the situations, those who recommend staying away from these apps are the right people. But we shouldn't forget that humans don't like to be binded to some specific conditions or limitations and in most of the cases they prefer hookups.
    You don't have to know that person in details as you pointed out correctly.
    It's a two-edged sword.
    It depends on people's philosophy and a combination of our biological traits.

    Recent psychological research has found that the more you try to get to know each other, the more likely you are to become less interested over time. This is because you might eventually discover characteristics in the other person that you dislike or disagree with and it is exactly what we see in all the relationships in the world or history with no exceptions.
    Even the love between human and their so-called creator, god.
    No surprise why the more someone is into religion, the more likely they might hate holding that belief when they grow up.
    Don't wanna go into a god's existence debate but when I said with no exception, I wanted to make it clear.

    So, honestly understanding every detail of someone's behavior is not a good or positive thing and will end in disaster and turmoil.

    So what should we do now finally?
    If it's only related to hormonal changes and nothing more, then why don't we try to only respond to those changes and continue living our life without going with some other painful processes?

    I'm not defending dating apps, nor any other methods for relationships cause relationships are totally f^cked up.
    It's just a question of time.

  41. @chriba6815

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    I am not even particularly succesful with dating apps myself but quite honestly this video is pretty bad, especially the first 3 min. A few points of notice:

    1.) Story with the guy at the urinal is either incredible exceptional or you completely misread the situation. Even when he got a few new matches while swiping you usually need at least a couple of messages first to set up a new date. The chances that he did that from those swipes and that was the reason why he left the other girl is highly unlikely and honestly that story sounds like BS. If anything, he had another date lined up afterwards and wanted to see first if this goes somewhere. It's not gentlemanly but if you can't convince yourself within the first hour that the person you met is your best option than there is no point in continuation. That's what having options means. It's natural to go for what is best for you.

    It happens very rarely for men to have many options and whether by app or in RL they would always use these options. All the blabla about relationships is rather a result of lack of options than what they would like to do.

    2.) The idea that so few people actually like dates just shows that most people think they have something to win or lose and put on a mask instead of just enjoying to meet another human being which apparently is so important to you. Dates are fun if you don't go there to pretend or hold expectations out of neediness.

    3.) Yes platforms develop algorithms so that you have to pay money. Not everything is for free. Just imagine not living in socialism, propostruous right?

    Technology can always be used as an advantage or misused. The way people treat these apps is rather a symptom than a cause. That being said, I agree that when you swipe on someone right on tinder as a man you should be able to chat her up in public as well.

  44. @danspataru8273

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    cut the cr@p!! If u a woman dating apps work 100% for you !! Ugly or beautiful the details are in the number of hundreds of matchings depending on your looks ! If u a guy who is in that 5-8% of women that swipe right you just discovered dating heaven …u gonna have more pussy than you cock can handle ! If u a guy that not matching the 5-8% criteria that woman swipe right on guys …than dating apps will make u feel miserable and demolish your self esteem

  48. @mountain.spider

    August 12, 2025 at 2:12 am

    Dating apps are cancer, people may not want to admit it, especially for men. I was reading a story where they were originally created for women particularly it's not even the choices. It's basically a meat market. Everything is based off that perfect picture before even somebody thinks about giving you a chance. Men and women are more likely to pass up someone they would approach in real and date or even even give a chance because they're waiting for a better opportunity. It makes everybody ultra. picky. Plus studies have shown women expect to be approach more even in dating apps that they're less likely to make a move. continuous rejection, no answer or simply ignored, isn't healthy. I was reading recently that bumble changed their dating guideline rules made it to where instead of a woman initiating the conversation because they consider it too much work. They allowed the men now to start them.

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