The Paradox of Being Nice | A Short Film

The issue is, when you are like this, how do you even know who you "truly" are? When interacting with everyone, you're a blank slate that you let others fill in. I've struggled with this for 30 years now. I don't know who I am because I am what everyone wants me to be. I don't know what my hobbies are, what my interests are, what my goals or aspirations are, I only know what Phil from down the street knows me as. I only know myself as what Jessica thinks I am. I don't know who I am.

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The hate you feel that you unknowingly spent most of you to feel loved by people.

It pains me that i can see myself in him. And im happy i have begun slowly but truly, to step back from making sure people love me, from things drowning me rather than filling my cup.

Someone please like my comment so that I can it can’t remind me of this and comeback to watch it

I think AI technology has developed in a horrific way.

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This video feels like me

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Uncharacteristically boring. IMHO. Why not just do a real authentic original drama instead of a voice over. Seems easy. Lazy. Contrary to your own advice.
There’s still time.
Until there isn’t.

00:11 Struggles of authenticity in relationships lead to emotional disconnect.
01:15 Struggling with identity and existence after a life-altering diagnosis.
02:04 The speaker reflects on the overwhelming emotions from recent experiences.
02:49 John reflects on his struggle with others' expectations.
03:58 Prioritizing others' approval can lead to losing one’s true self.
04:50 Struggles with self-perception and the paradox of seeking external validation.
05:43 Striving to please others diminishes personal identity and fulfillment.
06:49 Exploring the pressure to be perfect and the struggle for authenticity.

Sometimes people call me bossy but like when a group of 6 of us are trying to figure out where to eat supper, and everyone says they don’t care…I’m GONNA say where I want to go then if everyone else doesn’t care. That being said- if someone was opposed or wanted to go somewhere else I would give up my preference ❤

We want to be liked by everybody, that's the problem. Find your people.

It’s called “Nice guy syndrome”. You have secret contracts with everybody in your life.

Damn this is underrated

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Being a nice humble person as a man of color among white people, especially among white women is litterally commiting suicide. They take it as an open invitation to bully you. No nice for white women.

I used to be very nice, like naive nice. Now i dont trust anybody.

He said I cared so much about how I was experiencing the minds of others that I never truly experienced me and my own

I have been following your work for a while now and so excited that you started doing this! Stepping in film making myself and this is a reminder of being authentic ❤ thank you!

If you decide to put on a mask and wear it for too long, it will slowly start to symbiosize with you and the line of what is you and what is the mask will slowly start to blur out. In the end you will start to try searching for what you are, but since you kept telling yourself this lie over and over again, you will start believing in it until it turns into your reality. There is no going back, once you crossed the event horizon and no mask anymore you can pull off at will. It will become your reality. Your being and your persona.

That was just dumb