Lewis Howes REVEALS The One SKILL You Need to be SUCCESSFUL | Impact Theory
Your life story begins as a child no matter who you are. Though our experiences are all uniquely different, pain and frustration from whatever reason usually leaves you scared, angry, and sometimes bitter. When Lewis Howes came face to face with his anger and rage, he got to work on understanding himself, his triggers and how he could improve everyday.
After years of practice, he is sharing with you what doing the inner work involves and how feedback has become a critical part of his success. From sharing his 2 secret skills for success to exposing how his healing came along side a few f*ck you letters, this episode is packed with solid advice and exploration of what it takes to find great coaches and be great!
Check Out Lewis Howes First Interview on Impact Theory: https://youtu.be/YZ9kfXw9H54
If you want more, here’s Lewis Howes’ Top 3 Tips for Impact: https://youtu.be/SEkwkVGaMvk
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Lewis Howes
1:22 | Most Important Skill, Vision
2:45 | Developing Vision
5:48 | What People Are Missing
7:50 | Preparing for Something Greater
9:45 | Perfect Storm for a Break Down
13:27 | Healing from the Shame
14:40 | F*ck You Letters & Darkness
17:28 | Prepared and Facing the Pain
20:44 | Need for Mind, Body, & Emotions
28:07 | Relationship Lessons
32:22 | Delaying Sexual Connection
35:29 | Connection Over Values First?
38:16 | Having Kids & Being Authentic
40:25 | Power of Therapy & Triggers
43:13 | Find Great Coaches & Feedback
44:27 | Practice of Taking Feedback
47:06 | Withstanding Physical Pain
48:02 | Finding Good Coaches
51:17 | Stacking Blind Spots
54:28 | Way of Language Learning
57:02 | Earn Your Respect
59:37 | Defining Greatness
QUOTES:
“You’ve never mastered really anything, you can be great at something but there’s always another level in sports to be better.” [3:53]
“We underestimate what people might be going through inside, even if they look like they have it all figured out on the outside.” [12:06]
“If you don’t know how to manage the beast inside, you could really be struggling.” [12:20]
“I only let myself lean into the darkness until I know that now it’s in danger of being corrosive.” Tom Bilyeu [15:05]
“To just know, if someone wanted to do something, I would be able to take care of myself, that gives me inner peace, that eliminates anxiety” [18:16]
“The discipline of doing something painful every day, I think, is one of the most important disciplines that any human being can have. Whatever that pain looks like for you, I believe we must lean into the pain every day.” [18:36]
“It’s not enough to do the work in the past. It’s a continual process in the present. That makes me feel at peace every day.” [24:19]
“Love is not enough for a long term committed, healthy relationship to fully work.” [29:28]
“I’m willing to grow and improve but I’m not going to just do something to create peace.” [39:51]
“The ability to have a beginner’s mind, find and surround myself by great coaches, and be unapologetic in asking for feedback. Feedback has been a huge indicator of my success.” [43:55]
“Just because someone’s giving you feedback doesn’t mean it’s true about you. So, don’t take it personally. And see where is the truth in there, and how can you apply it” [45:16]
Follow Lewis Howes:
Website: https://lewishowes.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/lewishowes/about
Twitter: https://twitter.com/LewisHowes
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/

@TomBilyeu
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
What question would you like to ask Lewis Howes?
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April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
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@Joel_Bob
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Holy hell! Lewis Howes is spot on when talking about what's needed more in relationships. Values, goals, visions, mindsets, these are all as accumulatively as important as love is!
@alexcantu331
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
I personally believe the "pulling feeling" lewis is feeling is a spirit that leads him. Some are evil others good. I guess he has a good one.
@Danielhill45689
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Allah Almighty shows His mercy only to the merciful. Be merciful to those on the Earth, so that those on the Heavens will be merciful to you.
@normankoaesa106
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Greatness meets impact i been waiting for these
@paulaalinsangan6435
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
My profound gratitude goes to these two beautiful young men. Your amazing conversation has inspired deeply this 75 -year old. Yes, Lewis,
there is so much more to a long term relationship than just love. I wish more people, young ones especially, realize this. Continue the good work.
Greetings from the Phippines.
@renchemarais8419
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
THE SCHOOL OF GREATNESS CHANGED MY WHOLE LIFE WITH A U-TURN IN ANOTHER DIRECTION 🕊️🕊️🕊️ OUT OF AFRICA 🌍🌍🌍🌍🕊️🕊️🕊️
@56348u
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
please give examples of a lessons you learnt then applied immediately.
@wangchentsogyal
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
This is awesome.thank you both ❤
@danielaurumova4224
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Big admirations to both Tom and Lewis for speaking out loud for their emotions and struggles.
I am trying to show my partner that showing vulnerability is actually a strength but it is so hard for him to open up.
As someone said before “ it is very hard to pull someone Up if they don’t want to move and grow “
@felipebravo7667
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Great interview I love your program..Tom could You make your program in Spanish also? Congratulations guys..Greetings from Chile♥️🇨🇱
@santasantinagatta
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Without Vision People Perish!- thank you!
@rachelari1271
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
I like both your shows.
What a beautiful interaction you two have.
@midlife-Rising
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
LOVED THE INTERVIEW. YOU GUYS ARE GREAT..
@LeAnne-e6b
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
I admire the way Lewis has worked on himself ! Very motivating
@LeAnne-e6b
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
I love Lewis’s ! His calmness in speaking gives me a calm inspiration and motivation in a world of so much anxiety ❤️
@stevenocchionero5262
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Tom you use the F word and other similar words too much one time is too much, clean speach is the best for all listeners and represents care consideration and respect for others
@toobatahir2539
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Loved every bit of it
@mattanderson6672
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Thank you both
@anteromontero.88
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Thanks guys 😊 lewis and Tom for this video.god bless.
@tramelparker2085
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Wow my two podcasters ❗️🥀
@sarahsalameh7669
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
So powerful , thanks 🌹
@tiarachivers
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
💗
@brennandenos246
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
I can give you free spanish lessons!! Call me 1000% serious!
@dimplesharmalyngdoh628
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Lewis is such an interesting person and hard working man
@paultaylor886
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Powerful
@rajanidiaries1111
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
You both are my favourites🙏🙏🙏
@Joyous2010ify
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Hawaiians believe that true knowledge comes from diaphram (na'au) other Eastern cultures believe its your 1st brain.
@Corrans
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
I could not agree more…love is NOT enough. It takes skills to have a successful relationship.
@Corrans
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Two wonderful interviewers in one show. Awesome.
@juliejardim6453
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Porque aprendemos en imágenes y emociones, si es real lo que Lewis Howes dice, yo estoy buscando su asesoría y coaching para alcanzar mi sueño.
@harmonty1000
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Lewis is right on! Love is not enough….
@karenjoylipat4501
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Don't judge or assume to people who seemed figured it out. You don't know the whole story and what is really inside.
@arizonadesert5861
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
The book “Attached”
It’s a great book for any relationship and fix any issue I total recommend. I have been reading many self development books and that’s one of my favorite!! 🛑❤️
@arizonadesert5861
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Lewis and Martha are a great couple I love them ❤️❤️❤️🌷
@that_vahini
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
Absolutely loved this interview!
@M26S
April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm
My dream is to come to your show as a motivation speaker 🔊