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Lewis Howes REVEALS The One SKILL You Need to be SUCCESSFUL | Impact Theory

Tom Bilyeu | April 22, 2026



Your life story begins as a child no matter who you are. Though our experiences are all uniquely different, pain and frustration from whatever reason usually leaves you scared, angry, and sometimes bitter. When Lewis Howes came face to face with his anger and rage, he got to work on understanding himself, his triggers and how he could improve everyday.

After years of practice, he is sharing with you what doing the inner work involves and how feedback has become a critical part of his success. From sharing his 2 secret skills for success to exposing how his healing came along side a few f*ck you letters, this episode is packed with solid advice and exploration of what it takes to find great coaches and be great!

Check Out Lewis Howes First Interview on Impact Theory: https://youtu.be/YZ9kfXw9H54
If you want more, here’s Lewis Howes’ Top 3 Tips for Impact: https://youtu.be/SEkwkVGaMvk

SHOW NOTES:

0:00 | Introduction to Lewis Howes
1:22 | Most Important Skill, Vision
2:45 | Developing Vision
5:48 | What People Are Missing
7:50 | Preparing for Something Greater
9:45 | Perfect Storm for a Break Down
13:27 | Healing from the Shame
14:40 | F*ck You Letters & Darkness
17:28 | Prepared and Facing the Pain
20:44 | Need for Mind, Body, & Emotions
28:07 | Relationship Lessons
32:22 | Delaying Sexual Connection
35:29 | Connection Over Values First?
38:16 | Having Kids & Being Authentic
40:25 | Power of Therapy & Triggers
43:13 | Find Great Coaches & Feedback
44:27 | Practice of Taking Feedback
47:06 | Withstanding Physical Pain
48:02 | Finding Good Coaches
51:17 | Stacking Blind Spots
54:28 | Way of Language Learning
57:02 | Earn Your Respect
59:37 | Defining Greatness

QUOTES:

“You’ve never mastered really anything, you can be great at something but there’s always another level in sports to be better.” [3:53]

“We underestimate what people might be going through inside, even if they look like they have it all figured out on the outside.” [12:06]

“If you don’t know how to manage the beast inside, you could really be struggling.” [12:20]

“I only let myself lean into the darkness until I know that now it’s in danger of being corrosive.” Tom Bilyeu [15:05]

“To just know, if someone wanted to do something, I would be able to take care of myself, that gives me inner peace, that eliminates anxiety” [18:16]

“The discipline of doing something painful every day, I think, is one of the most important disciplines that any human being can have. Whatever that pain looks like for you, I believe we must lean into the pain every day.” [18:36]

“It’s not enough to do the work in the past. It’s a continual process in the present. That makes me feel at peace every day.” [24:19]

“Love is not enough for a long term committed, healthy relationship to fully work.” [29:28]

“I’m willing to grow and improve but I’m not going to just do something to create peace.” [39:51]

“The ability to have a beginner’s mind, find and surround myself by great coaches, and be unapologetic in asking for feedback. Feedback has been a huge indicator of my success.” [43:55]

“Just because someone’s giving you feedback doesn’t mean it’s true about you. So, don’t take it personally. And see where is the truth in there, and how can you apply it” [45:16]

Follow Lewis Howes:
Website: https://lewishowes.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/lewishowes/about
Twitter: https://twitter.com/LewisHowes
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/

Written by Tom Bilyeu

Comments

This post currently has 38 comments.

  1. @Joel_Bob

    April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm

    Holy hell! Lewis Howes is spot on when talking about what's needed more in relationships. Values, goals, visions, mindsets, these are all as accumulatively as important as love is!

  2. @paulaalinsangan6435

    April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm

    My profound gratitude goes to these two beautiful young men. Your amazing conversation has inspired deeply this 75 -year old. Yes, Lewis,
    there is so much more to a long term relationship than just love. I wish more people, young ones especially, realize this. Continue the good work.

    Greetings from the Phippines.

  3. @danielaurumova4224

    April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm

    Big admirations to both Tom and Lewis for speaking out loud for their emotions and struggles.
    I am trying to show my partner that showing vulnerability is actually a strength but it is so hard for him to open up.
    As someone said before “ it is very hard to pull someone Up if they don’t want to move and grow “

  4. @arizonadesert5861

    April 22, 2026 at 10:44 pm

    The book “Attached”
    It’s a great book for any relationship and fix any issue I total recommend. I have been reading many self development books and that’s one of my favorite!! 🛑❤️

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