You Don’t Have the Right to ‘Not be Offended’
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@sustainabilityinstride
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
I tend to think that you don't get to decide what offends other people. But like your take too
@Densoro
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
There’s a big difference between ‘hurting a single person’s feelings,’ and ‘spreading stigma and malicious misinformation’ tho. If somebody says my teeth make me look like a doofus, I can control myself.
If somebody says that rape is the victims’ fault, they are trying to indoctrinate others into an ideology that has already ruined countless lives and left good people dead. They must stop. They are wrong. Period.
@VIIIrats
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
You have the right to be offended, but people also have the right to offend. On general principal, it’s respectful to not be a dick. But you can be a dick.
@mrsblackirish7
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
I think this is something you build in yourself after alot memtal training… No one like to talk to a door, when people are rude I just go my way but if I really need that person like post office, bank or whatever, I act like I didnt hear, I talk to them without listening to what they are actually saying. I am a Christian and I know spiritually that the situation is not worthed, in fact nothing in this world is worthed my soul. I keep any bad feeling and hate away from me. This became nature to me, my refuge is to go home and pray for myself and the person.
@misterchartreuse8920
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
For some reason I read the title and thought he was going to argue that I have to be offended at all times.
@imperialofficerremusblackw8452
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
Amen
@stanboyd2761
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
Roll Tide
@liptherapy
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
trying not to be a dick worked only 5 dislikes
@Naiy-Dudette
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
I really want to buy you a coffee sometime and just have a conversation about anything and everything all afternoon… love your videos
@misterprickly
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
People that think they have the right not to be offended are as delusional as the fools that think they are beyond criticism.
People like this need to wake up, grow up and get on with their lives!
@PikUpYourPantsPatrol
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
Being offended is a choice, I don't have any responsibility you just want me to
@maximumirregularity3830
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
I think the key in discerning how to react to ones own aggravation to others comments or points is, are they deliberately being malicious? If so you may have the right to be offended, depending on circumstance. But if not, either the lack of understanding, poor communication or improper use of satire/sarcasm may have occurred. Me personally I let things slide and always give people the benefit of the doubt. I think for the most part people don't intend to be malicious. Communication and deliberation is key to conflict resolution. Its unfortunate people nowadays have issues with empathy. P.S. Love your videos XD, been watching for 2 years now. Do you play Smash 4?
@MaricaAmbrosius
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
The title seems to be saying that you have to be offended.
@qtunicorn2123
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
How do I let go of the involuntary feeling? I think all the right things but my feelings just don't follow through.
@lizlefae
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
You see whereas I don't always agree with everything you have to say for the most part I can understand where it comes from & I totally respect you for it, which is why I love watching your videos 😀
@SerpentOfTheLight68
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
I'd also add that it's the responsibility of the offended party to explain why they're offended. I am frequently offended by by things I read people saying, but rather than throw my toys out the pram, I explain why I think what they've said is douchy and inaccurate. From this, they'll either see where I'm coming from, and maybe grow as a person, or not and, depending on what the offending comment is, I'll just leave them. Keeping dialogue going as a debate and explaining your reasons for being offended or your reasons for making the offending comment opens up opportunity for progress on either side. Being instantly rude to someone, whether you're either on the offended or the offending side (I've been on both and reckon most people probably have been, too), is counterproductive and, well, more than a little stupid.
@tylerbaldwin9695
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
Awesome
@blashco
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
I agree. Why do people feel that if they are offended, something is wrong with the presented material? Being offended is just as valid of a response as finding it amusing. So you're offended, why is that not allowed to happen?
@MrTinTinTinny
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
"I know that sometimes your reactions to things are involuntary and you can't help how you feel." (standing next to Hulk poster)
@brinlov
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
Dude, I am so happy I found your channel. Subs now.
@ASnarkyCatLady
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
A little late to the game on this video (sorry, been out of the country). I'm just curious what you think about being offended for others?
I'm thinking this video (Groupon Super Bowl Ad | Save the Money – Tibet) during the Super Bowl a few years ago. A bunch of people I know were offended and told my friend who is Tibetan that she and others in her community ought to be offended (her and many others in the Tibetan community here loved it I guess, especially since the site was raising money for issues at the time I think).
I don't know about not having the right to be not offended but I don't understand why people can be offended by something that isn't offensive to the people it is poking fun at. Since you're more fluent than I am I was wondering what your thoughts on that are.
@ganjafi59
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
Truuuuuuue
@Ratchit84
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
Dude, sort out your map. Down with mercator!
@lerenardsubtil4474
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
Incredible insight. It's intriguing to me because i certainly do feel like the listener is partly responsible for making sure the speakers message gets across in totality. Speaking is indeed a skill that can be honed and we are all told this. but so is listening. And i think it is at this junction where peoples messages are misconstrued the most.
This vid beautifully articulates the responsibilities of of all parties in any meaningful conversation or debate.
Kudos!
@Karaisoke
April 15, 2026 at 12:40 am
As someone who recently lost their shit on someone for being a dick, by being a dick, I feel as though I can contribute to this conversation.
I agree mostly. I have a policy of not telling people not to be offended when they are offended by something. Unless it's SUPER stupid. Like, Brad and Angelina letting Shiloh pick boy clothes. That is just fucking stupid. Get over yourselves. Jesus.
Anyway, in that there is the other side. People in a group of people (being disabled, I'm going to use disabled people as an example) who say they are not offended so it's OK for people to completely disregard what the person is saying.
I was watching a video where a disabled woman in a chair said "I'm not your inspiration porn. I'm not inspirational for doing the same things you do every day." She's right. Anyone who has any kind of disability is NOT an inspiration for watching the same TV shows as you, getting up in the morning or going to the grocery store. Even on a higher level, they aren't an inspiration for you because they compete in sports. You don't get to say "Wow! My life is so much better because I have two legs that work. Wow!" Dismissing another person's experience is another matter all together.
My problem is, that people who say "Well, I'm in a wheelchair. She's wrong, and even though I obviously didn't pay attention, I can tell you everything I do is inspirational. Go ahead. Everyone think every disabled person is an inspiration!"
I think it goes the same for people who have that one friend (black, trans, gay,etc.) who says "You can use X word" and so they go "My friend said I could, so it's OK. Since they speak for the ENTIRE COMMUNITY, I'm not offending anyone and you should all not be offended" or worse "Chill your shit."
This is long. I'm going to go watch more live Cherry Filter videos and quit spamming your videos with my ~*~*~*~FEEEELS~*~*~*~ as a gay trans guy who is disabled, and is super duper white passing because I took after my Mom's side of the family instead of looking like my Dad. (Basically I have experienced or witnessed first hand many many types of this discrimination)