RE: Why You Shouldn’t Catcall People
Catcalling video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1XGPvbWn0A
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@mishapurser7542
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I go out with headphones on to avoid anything like this. The vast majority of the time I'm also just listening to music but even if my headphones or phone have run out of charge or I just don't feel like listening to music I keep my headphones on to avoid unwanted attention.
@KatiCleo
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I still remember when I was 17 and my sister (12 at the time) came up to me and she asked me something along the lines of "Hey what does 'cock tease' mean?". I just looked at her wide eyed and asked her where she heard that and she said "Me and a friend of mine were passing by a taxi driver who was looking at us and we said Hi and as he drove by he yelled "Fucking cock tease!!"
I didn't even know how to respond to that…. At that moment I recalled the moments when I was around her age and weird men shouted things at me on the street and realized how truly creepy they were.
A lot of men are like "It's just a compliment" or "What's wrong with saying hi?" but they don't get that for most women if they don't know you, they don't know what kind of person you are and if you are going to stalk them or harass them. In that moment, you are just scared, you don't think #NotAllMen or some shit like that!
@eddiepollau4577
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I’m new to your channel, but this video is just as relevant today as it was 4 years ago.
I read so many comments in defense of milder forms of catcalling or flirting on the street by saying it comes down to “intent,” but like, I’m not psychic, I have NO idea what your intent is and even if you’re being relatively polite, you’re still trying to “get” something from me and that feeling of distrust is still there. It’s built up from years of bad experiences and I’m not gonna put it aside just cuz you think you’re great.
I think this is one of those cases where guys just have to take our word for it. Catcalling/being approached on the street doesn’t feel good. It really, REALLY doesn’t. If 99% of women say they don’t like it..maybe just take our word for it this time
@eternalpessimist2201
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
If you have to say something is a compliment, it's not a compliment…
@edgeofthewaterfall
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
this is an old video, but I do think it's hilarious how many people are so defensive about their ~right~ to annoy people in public. they know women don't like it, but somehow this behavior is socially acceptable even though it serves no purpose the vast majority of the time. it makes no sense. it's like if I got a street performer license but instead of playing music I just banged pots and pans together while wailing and whenever someone told me to stop I was like "I have the RIGHT to play music on this street, so if you walk around this neighborhood you've gotta deal with it!" like, why do you wanna annoy the general public?
@magical571
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
in my experience, construction workers are the worst; you really don't wont to walk near a construction unless you are totally ok with them all looking and catcalling at the same time, even from a fifth floor.
@christianplummer3315
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
This doesn't happen in the UK
@Mr.2slixxk
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
DID NOBODY ELSE NOTICE HIS FUCKING DOOR OPEN??
@ArmstrongandTumbler
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I'm a dude, and I honestly wish I was catcalled more. Even if it's from other dudes. I want that attention and to feel that noticeable. It's flattering.
@CreatingBooksnPulsars
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I appreciate all your points but there are a few big ones missing. Most women recall being cat called starting around the ages of 10-12! And not by other 12 years olds. Hell, one guy followed me in his car when I was 13 yelling about positions he wanted me in. I walked around the block three times because I was scared for him to see where I lived. If you pay any attention to the news, girls and women have been attacked, raped and murdered because they didn't respond to a cat caller "appropriately". When I was 16, some guy said hi and I just said hi back and kept walking but he began to yell out at me so I ignored him. He followed me for a block telling me I deserved to be raped and that I was a bitch and he just wanted to be nice, and fuck me I'm fat anyways (because I wasn't two seconds earlier when he hit on me?) It's because of ALL those men who are really dangerous and really harassing us, a perfectly good guy says hi on the street, my nerves act up and I'm scared because until i figure out how to respond and see how he responds back, I don't know which guy is which. Every cat caller is schrodinger's harrasser/attacker. So yes, I would prefer for NO man to do it because I would rather not feel that fear when walking home, or to work or to the store.
@EmilyCarter-sj7in
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
i like this dude
@andrewpowell1734
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
Do a video on black people and heavy metal music.
@Ykhraam
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
beauty and the beast.. Lmao XD
@fistmypenguin
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this! I was having trouble explaining to people around me why catcalling sucks and you've really nailed it. Thanks. Keep sharing your thoughts!
@leslyesmith9890
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I tend to just yell hi to random people…
@ameXkage
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
Oh look, a video about cat-calling. Specifically, a video about how it's shitty to cat-call people. Cue the stampede of guys rushing in to tell us all that ACTUALLY THIS IS NOT TRUE, YOU ARE MAKING IT UP OR TOO SENSITIVE AND CAN'T YOU TAKE A COMPLIMENT? WHY DO I ALWAYS KNOW MORE ABOUT YOUR EXPERIENCES THAN YOU DO, WHY DO I ALWAYS GOTTA TELL WOMEN HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT THINGS! WOMEN! SHEESH!
@xDevacorex
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
The problem is not as simple as cat calling. This is a move to make cat calling illegal. You can see who they want off the streets.(I only saw blacks and Hispanics). They are going to use this law to push the minorities and poor down. You so much as look at a female, you could end up in prison.. it's messed up.
@xDevacorex
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
Or live in a small community in a non US country. It's hard to cat call if you know the person and they know where you work.
@aprilfool6076
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
Man, thank you. You're too cool.
@KalinTheZola
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I work at a game store, so as you can imagine, I get this a lot.
It took me a while to get used to honestly. I didn't get many comments in school because I was that weird witchy (people thought I was a witch for a while. Alabama.) little girl in the corner by herself drawing and not socializing. Then I worked at a fabric store for almost three years after high school so I wasn't around most men. The only time there were men who showed interest then were creepy men who lived with their mothers/grandparents who would follow me around in the store and peak over counters to watch me work.
Then I go to work at a game store and that completely changed. I'm getting comments and compliments left and right. Most of the time they were pretty benign, but I still had to get used to it. It was a different change of scene and though there are many nice respectful social men who come into the store and give me nice compliments and try to ask me out, there were also the not quite all there men who would come in and not leave me alone and be otherwise just pesters.
Thought I've gotten used to both of these types, it's still pretty annoying to get it all the time. I can appreciate the guys who use tact in trying to ask me out.
Take note boys, don't ask a girl to ring up your purchase with her phone number. (I did get that one and instead I just repeated his total to him XD) Instead, if she's working at a game store, ask if her boyfriend plays games too 🙂 That's a sly way to show interest, but also that you're willing to back off if she doesn't seem interested or has someone.
If all else fails, just politely ask her if she's seeing someone or if she'd be interested in going out sometime.
Sure some women may be perfectly accepting of you coming onto her pretty strongly, but if you're not sure and have an interest in her, don't risk that if you can help it!
@ryanmorton3841
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
It's weird my points of contention with that video is not the fact that it happens, because it does, street harassment is a common thing for both men and women, sexual and non sexual, sure the statistics for sexual and non-sexual harassment may differ by gender but it is by no means a "gendered" issue. My problem with the video is what it defines as harassment, it claimed head turning and winking could also be construed as harassment and a lot of what happened in the video was just harmless banter or complements, a lot of it was also creepy and yes also harassment. It also painted it in a very black and white manner and failed to take into consideration many of the factors that would have been at play; gender, appearance and race are meaningless to me when it comes to harassment in general although they MAY play a part in the type of harassment, what almost always seems to be common in all types are the social, economic and geographical factors. It also doesn't take into consideration that some people don't care, others are flattered and others are offended. So I suppose my point is that my problem with the video you referenced was that it lacked nuance and I feel discussions like these, especially when trying to raise awareness, really do need nuance. Anyway regardless of whether it's harassment, sexual or otherwise, men or women, it can be pretty annoying, shocking, uncomfortable and even frightening for strangers to approach you uninvited.
@StonedHunter
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I would like to add that flirting with people while they are working, and therefore cannot out right turn you down or ask you to leave you alone, is really horrible. Like, I'm being forced to be polite to you, otherwise I would cuss you out for being a creep and constantly hitting on me when I just want to do my lame ass job and go home.
And quit telling me to smile. I will smile when I feel like it. It is not your job to tell other people how they are allowed to feel.
@NickyTannock
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I say good-morning or good-afternoon to everyone, because I was taught that this is the polite thing to do.
Admittedly I don't do this on the street when there are quite a lot of people, because it would be impractical.
But does this mean I am somehow a bad person?
@sgtpetersen
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
So people (government) should not be in your every day business? NSA is cat calling you every day, on your phone and computer, you just don't here it.
@DJPoundPuppy
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I know you get this a lot but that hair is fabbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbulous.
@fwwaller
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
You know, even if women receive the same nice and friendly comments day in day out, they should still accept those comments with warmth and courtesy. When I go to school I get the same greetings and nice comments from people, but I never brush them off like a spiteful bitch, I accept them and reciprocate the feeling back at those people. Amicability is becoming a more increasingly rare commodity. Even if they come off as annoying, it's not cool to just scoff at them because these are people who are only trying to help you have a better day. If these women were really that opposed to cat calling, they would understand the importance of distinguishing the difference between a person who is desperately trying to get in your pants, and a person who is simply being kind.
@Pseudochu
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
1:10 Ghost door lol
@blubblubblubblubb
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
I love how you talk about these things and that as a guy you actually understand what is going on. Most guys just don't get when girls try to explain why it's a bad thing to catcall. I don't know why it's called catcalling (English isn't my first language), but when talking about this topic recently I realized that the word still sums up how I feel when catcalled. I feel like a cat on the street, like these guys treat me the same way I would treat a cat. I would try to attract its attention, talk to it, tell it that it's cute and try to pet it. I have no bad intentions for doing this. I just really love cats! Guys might be thinking the same way about the girls they are catcalling. If so, it's quite disturbing. Whatever your intentions are, stop it.
@HarryCopperPot
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
You're the best <3
@Zinegirl09
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
Thank you!
@TerryFedora
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
THANK YOU!
@caseytalk
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
Acceptable greetings to strangers on the street: Good morning. Good day. Good afternoon. Good evening. All of these to be said in the tone of a human being acknowledging the presence of another human being and, if you are going to say them, to be said to EVERYONE you meet. If you would only say it to a person you are attracted to, your motive is no longer to be polite but to flirt and, as he said, people should be able to walk down the street without being expected to flirt with strangers.
@throwrocksatrosie
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
obsessed with your videos
@MissTeenageNothing
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
You've said everything I was thinking, and so eloquently. Very well spoken. I wanted to say that I think it's one thing to one to talk to a person and greet them. It is a very different thing to oogle them; stare at their body parts; and follow them. Why would she feel grateful that someone is yellow YOUR BEAUTIFUL in ear shot of everyone else? That's more likely to make her feel embarrassed and awkward. Everyone likes a genuine compliment but not 24×7, esp. when they are not genuine. You must understand that gets annoying. Besides, there's nothing genuine about saying "Damn," "Nice," "God bless you," or staring down someone's breast, buttocks, or face.I would say the same if this was reversed and it was a man being treated like this. We are talking about a human being, dressed modestly, and what happens here is that she is dehumanized and sexually objectified over and over. I've seen incidents where men full out grab woman as they walk by, or grab a piece of breast/butt tissue and that's molestation. Her personal space was violated as well as a sense of safety. Certainly overall, those individual men who comment about her during the clip probably doesn't fit under the law's definition of harassment but street harassment is very real and an insidious precursor of sexual violence women face.How demeaning it is for these men to think they have the RIGHT to speak about her body, use crude terms, and then get angry at her as if they are entitled, like "Someone is complimenting you on being beautiful, be grateful." Saying things like "nice" or "damn" as if her body is for their pleasure. Just because you think something doesn't mean it has to be said. If this took place in the workplace, this would be sexual harassment which is punishable by law. It's very disgusting, ignorant, and plain out rude but people are so used to it it's not even considered relevant anymore but imagine if that was your own daughter or a female you care about in life. That can make someone insecure, scared, threatened or at risk for sexual violence – ex: she was followed by a period of time but two men. Also for those women out there who are justifying these men's actions, the fact that you think it's acceptable is showing your internalized sexism and insecurities, because if you think being "beautiful" is enough reason to be followed and stalked, then you're seriously hurt deep inside. To people saying that she should feel happy to have her beauty acknowledged than that's bullshit…she doesn't have to be forced to feel anything she doesn't want, but we have the ability to control our actions. Also, if you think that this is flattery, think again. It's pure sexual objectification. Treating someone like a piece of meat – where is the humanity in that? We need to consider the images we have about women in the media and why men think that their bodies are pieces of art to look at and handle. Also, all this applies to men too because it's not okay for someone to yell out and scream and shout out a man working out or getting a bagel on his way to work. No one should feel entitled to another person's body.
@Zer00_Empathy
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
WTF are you talking about? this video makes zero valid points, I agree with most of what you say at a base level in your videos, but I cannot agree with a single point you made this whole video.
Let me explain why, First- when you are not invading someones privacy when you hit on a woman in public, if you went into there job and continued to annoy them with your advances then I would agree, simply trying to get the attention of someone that in reality you may never see again is not privacy invasion, stop pretending that hitting on someone is invasion.
Second- Men do it because a group of woman do respond positively to it, I have seen it happen first hand and it blew my fucking mind, I personally have never called some woman out on the street but when I used to do construction my coworkers did that shit all the time and I was blown away by the number of woman who not just positively responded but would come over and give their number to the guys calling them out. I am not going to speculate what % of woman did it and you should not make such general statements either, it just makes you look foolish.
Third- Woman make the CHOICES, not the men, if men made the choice when it came to sexual connections then they would never need to cat call, but we don't, women do, Men have to put themselves out to find a woman, they are the ones that need to make the first contact. In my life I have never ONCE seen a woman approach a man and make the first connection, so it falls to any man that wants to have a relationship or sex at all for that matter to make that move, its not hurting the woman for a guy to find her attractive, even if all he wants is sex, so stop pretending like these cat callers are somehow hurting women cause that is just absurd.
@elektriksheep
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
Well said and concisely said 🙂
@YamaMaharaja
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
And this is why I don't like talking to or with most women in public, even the ones that speak to me first. Call it discriminating, but I mainly say "Hello" and "Have a nice day" to mainly guys, and some older women. I've never cat-called, and I have no intention to, but I don't like speaking to a lot of women because I've seen so many lump most or all men in a group of sexual deviants or wanting to score points.
@Senketsujin
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
My thing is, a lot of people wouldn't put it in the category of the fact that it would more likely happen to a "Socially attracted female" This don't really happen to your average or below average female.
And honestly as a guy, you should always apologize if you were trying to talk to them in the middle of the street.
@bakintoast
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
Apparently this is an awkward subject. More and more it's becoming difficult to just be genuinely open and nice. I'm not a creep, and yet all of these comments are painting me into one, merely because I'm not introverted when I'm in public. I like to be open, to live life and be happy everywhere I go, this includes complimenting people I see around. No, I don't catcall, it's a polite compliment. To a guy, a girl, it doesn't matter. I don't even care if I'm brightening their day, I say the things I do because I know they're positive remarks and if they're misconstrued it's not because of me, it's because of some weird cultural/societal issue. Seems like 'communication classes' is something that'll need to start being taught in schools, because this is just ridiculous.
@Humineral
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
You didn't address either her outfit or the shitty area she was walking through.
There are numerous replications that came out showing far different results.
"If you think you're entitled to randomly talk to strangers whenever you want in any situation, basically you're saying that; that person has no right to be left alone, no right to privacy, has no right to have their personal space invaded…"
*Randomly talk to strangers [in public].
Is the argument at hand.
If a person is in public of course they have no right to be left alone. They don't OWN the space, they don't get to say "I am unhappy, therefore you cannot talk in my specific direction referencing me."
And trying to talk to someone has absolutely nothing to do with privacy, you have a point with stalkers though.
"…Which is basically an attempt to invalidate the fundamental agency of another human being and there's a word for that 'objectification'."
No it's not. Trying to talk to someone doesn't invalidate anything.
You could argue about the "sexual nature" of the cat calls and that women are more than sex etc. But this shit doesn't only happen to women.
Walk around with a 2ft wide afro, as a man, and the very same shit will happen to you.
Should you bitch and moan? No, because you are the one who chose to have such attention grabbing hair.
It's the same with this gal, she chose to specifically wear skin tight clothes.
If ANY "objectifying" is happening, it is her onto herself.
Resolving her of the responsibility to appropriately dress to achieve the desired results (of not being hit-on in public), is in itself, invalidating her agency.
She is responsible for what others notice, she is responsible for invoking biologically natural male desires with skin-tight clothing.
@BekeLuzette
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
thank you for doing a video on this!!! and explaining it for the misogynist who only listen to men as they do not put value on women opinion
@stephaniebenton9070
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
and can we add WHO FLIPPING CARES IF THAT PERSON IGNORES SOMEONE WHO GREETS THEM ON THE STREET. it's their choice to talk to you just as much as it is her choice to ignore you.
@WrathOfHanha
March 5, 2026 at 2:44 am
Seriously, time and place have everything to do with it. 11pm on the train home from work is an excellent example of a time when I personally wish to not have to fend off someone trying to "compliment" me or "start a conversation." If I had a car, I wouldn't have to deal with that kind of bullshit. But, according to some people, my income isn't high enough for me to have the right to not be hounded by guys who don't know how to take "no" for an answer. Seriously, it's not us, it's you. Take an interpersonal communication course (it's required for any kind of degree anyway, if you don't like public speaking) and get a clue. Or go to a gay bar just to have a drink, if you really want some perspective.
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