I'm the last child of five. In that pacifier allegory the fifth kid would have had to climb out of the high chair and get it themselves. They say the fifth kid is treated like a pet. It's true in my case. And since they invested so little in them they don't have much stake in their success so continue to be unsupportive, then if the Kidd does have promise they pretend it isn't there so they don't have to admit they screwed up. But anyone can have a kid and screw them up all they want.
I am 53. I cut my biological father out of my life completely at 20. I heard there were like 10 people at his funeral, of which 3 were officiants; neither my brother nor I attended. Few months later I get a check, $713. Cashed it and sent the money to St. Jude's Hospital. He died in a home, on a date I don't remember, with less than $1500 to his name. I don't even know where his grave is nor do I care. Sometimes the healthy thing is to excise whatever cancer they've placed in and on you as completely as possible.
Neal — you're thriving! Thank you. I had a terrible childhood too. It's never too late to let it go. A DEEP BOW TO YOU FOR YOUR RESILIENCE AND COURAGE TO CONTINUE.
I don't know why I love seeing British comedians interacting with American comedians so much. I'm a huge fan of British panel shows and Jimmy Carr on particular.
Jimmy Carr is not funny, and is an attempted tax dodger. No wonder he's out in america trying to scrounge attention. The last refuge of the scoundrel. Oh, and he's quoted JK Rowling a literal terf nazi, holocaust denier
Anyone who is struggling with what Neal went through could look into the group Adult Children of Alcoholics. There is information and free group meetings for people to attend to help move through and past the trauma.
You're a wanker jimmy, a well meaning one perhaps, none the less.. Viewing Neal's life through the lens of your own upbringing and pretending to be sympathetic to his plight,whilst shooting down a tender memory he has of warm plates, dismissing it as clutching at straws.. and Neal.. there is absolutely no need for you to justify or explain anything, much less with phrases like 'in her defence' reality is what it is, your experiences are yours and yours alone without the need to explain or justify.. i hope somebody warms your plates tonight..
as someone whos mum kinda sucked i fully get him being like in her defense she warmed up the plates, and it really is grasping at straws but in those small moments of extra effort is where i think love is shown for some people. and you want your mum to love you 🙂
Never present someone as having a difficult childhood, they will downplay it and it will put the backs up of anyone who has had a difficult childhood. Ny childhood was worse and I'll i could think about was all the other people I know who's stories are worse.
I'm 41 and I've only just realised in the last couple of years that I'm too old to still be blaming my upbringing for everything. And my childhood wasn't even that bad. My parent's only made kinda normal, humdrum mistakes. Nothing like Neil's.
When I was living at one of the homeless shelters in my city I had a best friend who said something to me I will never forget. He said that no one's life is worse than anyone else's, it's how you feel, and everyone feels different about their lives. Now I agree with that for the most part, but I do think it's a bit indifferent to the notion of real privilege and you know, living in a war zone where bombs are constantly being dropped on buildings around you. However, he was someone who when he was 9 years old, was held at gunpoint by teenagers and forced to have intercourse with a dog so – I imagine he kinda had to adopt that view point to keep from un-aliving himself.
I don’t have an expiration date on empathy for people with tough childhoods, but the direction of the empathy changes. At first, it’s an understanding that they weren’t given the love and support they deserved and the wounds are still fresh. As they reach their later years, I just feel sorry for them that they weren’t able to process and be freed from their trauma.
Im 62, my birth mother just died. I hadnt spoken to her since i was 15. She chose pedophiles to have a man and sacrificed her children to the alter of her having a guy around. It worked. I was removed from her custody at 5. But they left her other kids and let her adopt. So who kniws where that anger is supposed to go. With her to hell?
Thank you for talking about friendship and boundaries. I had to end up lots of damaging friendship, feeling like a freak for doing so because it seems so rare. I don’t feel so isolated anymore, thank you both!
Neal Brennans childhood doesn't sound that bad where I come from. I've heard much worse from many others, my own as well. Nice to see this side of Jimmy Carr
@jeffreywillstewart
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
I'm the last child of five. In that pacifier allegory the fifth kid would have had to climb out of the high chair and get it themselves. They say the fifth kid is treated like a pet. It's true in my case. And since they invested so little in them they don't have much stake in their success so continue to be unsupportive, then if the Kidd does have promise they pretend it isn't there so they don't have to admit they screwed up. But anyone can have a kid and screw them up all they want.
@pjmmaloney4458
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
I sincerely love Neal Brennan. Such a unique celebrity
@terrycullen3302
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
3:15 getting a bit defensive there, Neal.
@scottrackley4457
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
I am 53. I cut my biological father out of my life completely at 20. I heard there were like 10 people at his funeral, of which 3 were officiants; neither my brother nor I attended. Few months later I get a check, $713. Cashed it and sent the money to St. Jude's Hospital. He died in a home, on a date I don't remember, with less than $1500 to his name. I don't even know where his grave is nor do I care. Sometimes the healthy thing is to excise whatever cancer they've placed in and on you as completely as possible.
@hilpei3675
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Neal — you're thriving! Thank you. I had a terrible childhood too. It's never too late to let it go. A DEEP BOW TO YOU FOR YOUR RESILIENCE AND COURAGE TO CONTINUE.
@patrickbyrne5070
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Rowling ain’t nobody to take advice from. Shot hurts forever. But the basis is true. You can’t hold onto something forever if it’s killing you
@DaedricKing
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Two of the best comics in the world. I could listen to you two talk all day long. Grateful for you both.
@LoversAnonymousMusic
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
I feel a sad sense of camaraderie with Neal
@LordSeth-hf8ew
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Warm plates is a great name for something
@jasonwynne5735
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
I don't know why I love seeing British comedians interacting with American comedians so much. I'm a huge fan of British panel shows and Jimmy Carr on particular.
@maureenshaw737
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
I can TOTALLY relate to this ❤
@adammchugh5456
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Jimmy Carr is not funny, and is an attempted tax dodger. No wonder he's out in america trying to scrounge attention. The last refuge of the scoundrel. Oh, and he's quoted JK Rowling a literal terf nazi, holocaust denier
Great show great show.
@cartoonraccoon2078
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
10? How do they hold it in until it's ripe after like, 7th?
@tmbrtn7107
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Anyone who is struggling with what Neal went through could look into the group Adult Children of Alcoholics. There is information and free group meetings for people to attend to help move through and past the trauma.
@michelebergman4336
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
And then there’s….The MENENDEZ Brothers
@mowler8042
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Brutal
@DuskFox14th
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Can I give you a hug man?
@ejtattersall156
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Really? That's it? that's the awful childhood?
@user-yz1zt1nq1p
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Wow he ate warm plates! I cant imagine. We had no rules at all
@travelchannel304
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Ask the Amish…lol
@bluesirva3574
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
You're a wanker jimmy, a well meaning one perhaps, none the less.. Viewing Neal's life through the lens of your own upbringing and pretending to be sympathetic to his plight,whilst shooting down a tender memory he has of warm plates, dismissing it as clutching at straws.. and Neal.. there is absolutely no need for you to justify or explain anything, much less with phrases like 'in her defence' reality is what it is, your experiences are yours and yours alone without the need to explain or justify.. i hope somebody warms your plates tonight..
@Bee_Jellyfish
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
People often tell me the same and I react the same way Neal does
@raystaar
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
What happened to Jimmy Carr? Where did all this compassion come from?
@rickwilliams967
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Damn, Neal needs a lot of hugs
@inttrovertedmonk851
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Boohoo life is tough!
@donyandresen8063
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
You need to put most things behind you by the time you're 30 just to save yourself and move forward.
@williammcnamara9049
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
as someone whos mum kinda sucked i fully get him being like in her defense she warmed up the plates, and it really is grasping at straws but in those small moments of extra effort is where i think love is shown for some people. and you want your mum to love you 🙂
@RobotronOG
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
You guys don’t know what hard childhood is if you think his sounds outrageous. Just sayin.
@beatnikmary
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Neal briefly alludes to Jimmy having a similar childhood. Was it bad? I didn't even know.
@LudvigIndestrucable
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Never present someone as having a difficult childhood, they will downplay it and it will put the backs up of anyone who has had a difficult childhood.
Ny childhood was worse and I'll i could think about was all the other people I know who's stories are worse.
@micherunnett5492
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Wrote my monster Mother a letter basically told her to move on, best thing I ever did.
@dylanshelton9201
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Isn’t this a comedy podcast?
@L8BLUUMR
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
I didn't start therapy until I was 67 years old. It is never too late for healing.
@TheDylls
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
There's a statute of limitations on childhood trauma is a great line…
If it's that much of an issue, prove to YOURSELF that you're truky working on remedying it
@Jan0Van0Eyck
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Has Carr had a facelift?
@SoonGone
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
I'm 41 and I've only just realised in the last couple of years that I'm too old to still be blaming my upbringing for everything. And my childhood wasn't even that bad. My parent's only made kinda normal, humdrum mistakes. Nothing like Neil's.
@Jake-co3wk
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Neal, I empathize – this sounds like an Irish Catholic family from certain eras.
@dexked
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
lol warming plates up isn’t thoughtful. How is that thoughtful? That’s a wild corner you are still backed in to there
@BadassRaiden
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
When I was living at one of the homeless shelters in my city I had a best friend who said something to me I will never forget. He said that no one's life is worse than anyone else's, it's how you feel, and everyone feels different about their lives. Now I agree with that for the most part, but I do think it's a bit indifferent to the notion of real privilege and you know, living in a war zone where bombs are constantly being dropped on buildings around you. However, he was someone who when he was 9 years old, was held at gunpoint by teenagers and forced to have intercourse with a dog so – I imagine he kinda had to adopt that view point to keep from un-aliving himself.
@pushpineapple8163
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
I read this as Neal Brennan’s childhood WITH jimmy Carr. Like they grew up together😂
@procrastnwriter
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
A virtual hug to you Neal. As a person with PTSD from childhood trauma myself, childfree on purpose… I empathize.
@tilywinn
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
I don’t have an expiration date on empathy for people with tough childhoods, but the direction of the empathy changes. At first, it’s an understanding that they weren’t given the love and support they deserved and the wounds are still fresh. As they reach their later years, I just feel sorry for them that they weren’t able to process and be freed from their trauma.
@mikejohnson3338
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
If Carr thought that was upsetting, he's never heard my story.
@gigidodson
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Im 62, my birth mother just died. I hadnt spoken to her since i was 15.
She chose pedophiles to have a man and sacrificed her children to the alter of her having a guy around.
It worked.
I was removed from her custody at 5. But they left her other kids and let her adopt.
So who kniws where that anger is supposed to go.
With her to hell?
@LordMondegrene
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Neal, abused kids become cops, comedians, artists, soldiers, and serial killers because broken things have sharp edges.
@gabwaka
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Thank you for talking about friendship and boundaries. I had to end up lots of damaging friendship, feeling like a freak for doing so because it seems so rare. I don’t feel so isolated anymore, thank you both!
@sateIIitepilot
August 29, 2025 at 8:50 am
Neal Brennans childhood doesn't sound that bad where I come from. I've heard much worse from many others, my own as well. Nice to see this side of Jimmy Carr
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