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how to make friends when you have no rizz and hate going anywhere

Sisyphus 55 | September 1, 2026



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  1. @Sisyphus55

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

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  2. @himuraakame4850

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    The problem is, the community that i really click with isnt in where i live. I have moved away from my hom country but still managed to befriend new people from online forums. They have meetups, hangouts, even randomly when someone is bored they could just zoom somewhere with several people. But i cant join them im literally on the other side of the world.
    While im also trying to befriend people here, it did happened, but they also live far away now (we used to live close to each other). Im naturally the clown, the one that would initiate things when situation got awkward in groups that repeatedly get together. But again, i think im too much of a "bright" person that people thought i have a lot of friends, so they only interact with me if needed. I have long distance friends, but i dont know who to reach out when there's the need to connect and share when everyone are so close yet so far…

  3. @WhiteScorpio2

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    This video seems to assume that you already immersed in situations where you regularly interact with various people.
    That's a very strange assumption to make for a video on how to make friends.

  4. @someonedoe9591

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    "Go somewhere with people, repeatedly". Yeah cool, unhelpful. That's kind of the principle issue with modern loneliness, there are no people for you to be with, and friendship is part of the presupposed social contract to these meetings. You are screwed on the basis of social poverty, there is no capital to invest on. This is the equivalent of telling a homeless person to invest a million dollars.

  5. @Jerry-fy1iu

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    The most underrated act of kindness is simply letting people be. let them mispronounce a word, talk too much about a show they love, or get excited about something you don't quite understand. everyone has something that lights them up, let them shine, even if it's not your thing.

  6. @goog-mb4zo

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    thank you for mentioning neurodivergent people and people of color at the end. But couldn't you have mentioned women and lgbtq+ people too? And the disabled? And you didn't say "capitalism" once wtf how am I supposed to watch this video that doesn't even say "capitalism" once?

  7. @TzHaarRealm

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    I have to be honest, this channel feels like it's apathetically calling out my social and emotional flaws. I've been going through a very difficult mental health battle with multiple facets of unresolved trauma, my autistic tendencies making socializing difficult being one of the major ones. I lost my friend group of 15 years and I haven't been able to recover. No matter how objectively I look at myself through the people that are in my life, I still cannot find a reason to make myself feel important enough to be friend to somebody new.
    Edit: I wrote this halfway through the video and now at the end, I can say I feel doubly called out.

  8. @AbysmalRae

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    Good video. I’m an autistic woman in her 20s trying to figure out how to make more friends. I know I have niche interests, I tried a few places, unfortunately it has led to meltdowns for me. Overcoming that is hard and I started to isolate again. I think I might have to make my own meet up locally, see what happens. It does seem much easier said than done however. I’ll keep trying, but man is it tough.

  9. @TenaciousC.h.a.n.d.l.e.r

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    Im a misanthrope, through and through.
    Below is a poem by one of my favorite authors.

    "The Crunch" By: Charles Bukowski

    Too little
    Too fat
    Too thin
    Or nobody
    Too much
    Too little
    Too fat too thin
    Or nobody
    Laughter
    Or tears
    Haters
    Lovers
    Strangers with faces like
    The backs of
    Thumb tacks
    Armies running through
    Streets of blood
    Waving winebottles
    Bayoneting
    Fucking virgins
    Or an old guy in a cheap room
    With a photograph of M. Monroe
    There is a loneliness in this world so great
    That you can see it
    In the slow movement
    Of the hands of a clock
    People so tired
    Mutilated
    Either by love
    Or no love
    People are just not good to each other
    One on one
    The rich are not good to the rich
    Poor are not good to the poor
    We are afraid
    Our educational system tells us
    That we can all be
    Big-ass winners
    It hasn't told us
    About the gutters
    Or the suicides
    Or the terror of one person
    Aching in one place alone
    Untouched
    Unspoken to
    Watering a plant
    People are not good to each other
    People are not good to each other
    I suppose they never will be
    I suppose they never will be
    People are not good to each other
    People are not good to each other
    I suppose they never will be
    I suppose they never will be
    I didn't ask them to be
    But sometimes
    I think about it
    The beads will swing
    The clouds will cloud
    And the killer will behead the child
    Like taking a bite
    Out of an ice cream cone
    Too much
    Too little
    Too fat
    Too thin
    Or nobody
    More haters than lovers
    People are not good to each other
    Perhaps if they were
    Our deaths would not be so sad
    Meanwhile
    I look at young girls
    Stems
    Flowers of chance
    There must be a way
    Surely there must be a way
    We have not yet thought of
    Who put this brain inside of me?
    It cries
    It demands
    It says there is a chance
    It will not say
    "No."
    People are not good to each other
    People are not good to each other
    I suppose they never will be
    I suppose they never will be
    People are not good to each other
    People are not good to each other
    I suppose they never will be
    I suppose they never will be
    I didn't ask them to be
    But sometimes I think about it
    But sometimes I think about it

  10. @Amradye

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    Friends will find you. Humans naturally gravitate toward each other, forming bonds based on mutual interest. We literally have to move to the most isolated parts of the world if we want guaranteed isolation. Even then we bump into others of our kind. Humans need numbers to live long and comfortable lives. We’re curious to a fault too. 😅

  11. @HumanPatterns365

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    “this video felt way too real. I liked how it didn’t shame you for being awkward or tired of going out, but actually explained why it feels so hard. the ‘acceptance prophecy’ part hit. maybe it’s not about having rizz, just showing up anyway

  12. @jaerostikin

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    Funny, I come to this despite feeling somewhat both pessimistic and optimistic about moving out soon.
    I'm doing it mostly to meet new friends who are more similar to me, and honestly some days the pessimism wins, some days I feel more hopeful and more driven to keep remembering why I'm moving out and why I need to do this for my own sake regardless of the hoops I know are ahead.

    Much as I don't like admitting it, what I really failed to remember in high school was that being in high school period was basically the only reason I had a healthier social life then than I do now. Adulthood's issue now seems to be me trying to build that social health on my own without this system outside my control that basically makes social isolation difficult by design.

  13. @tikki2340

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    This video was on my mind this past week as I tried working up the courage to go to some in person nerd meetups in my area. A couple of times I could only get ready before getting too nervous, other times I went there and didn’t go inside and just drove away. Tonight was the night I actually went and hung out, and the idea that people actually wanted to talk to me just like I wanted to talk to them gave me a lot of bravery I didn’t know I had. Thank you Sisyphus.

  14. @frugal9065

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    Sisyphus please stop with the life accurate videos! (Not really) but seriously i swear to god anytime i’m going through a rough time in my life this guy always pinpoints exactly what’s wrong 😂

  15. @thebugman8696

    September 1, 2026 at 7:22 pm

    I have found that the biggest impediment for me making friends and going past acquaintance phase was the feeling that I could not live up to the personae that I presented. Which is to say I always presented myself as what I perceived to be higher status instead of being honest with who I was. This greed for what I perceived as higher status basically made me a phony and unable to truly connect with people past a superficial level. All of this to say that true connection with others requires humility, and authenticity(to a certain degree if there is such a thing) on your part.

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