Find Your PURPOSE, Craft Your Identity and COMMIT to YOURSELF | Tom Bilyeu
Why is change so hard? If it was easy everyone would be doing it and maybe the world would be a much better place. But, those of us with the best of intentions and the grandest of goals struggle with knowing who we are and connecting where we are with the distant reality of who we want to become. Can you relate? Changing your identity demands much more than most are willing to push through. The discipline, the self-awareness, the relentless pursuit of self-control and the skill it takes to adopt an identity worth pursuing are challenges and obstacles, but none of it translates to being impossible. Tom is unpacking the power of identity. Its power to change the course of your life and put you in higher situations and opportunities to succeed like you’ve never imagined. Get ready to take notes and do some reflecting. If you are serious about changing your life around and executing at the highest level it’s going to require work, and it starts right now! Let’s GO!
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Identity
0:56 | What Is Identity?
11:34 | Finish What You Start
17:55 | How To Be Congruent
22:00 | Identity Demands You Keep Going
28:02 | Emotional Control Is A Must
35:24 | Adopting Your New Identity
43:21 | Use Discipline and Punishment
48:04 | Become More Powerful
53:38 | Weight Loss Discipline
58:20 | Become Who You Want
QUOTES:
“I’m just dumb enough to make a lot of mistakes. But just smart enough to fix some of them.” [13:44]
“For whatever weird fucking reason humans want to be congruent, so if you tell somebody you are something, then you want to act in congruence with that, otherwise, it does not feel good.” [19:29]
“I have found in the moment where you most want to panic, downshift…” [30:14]
“We only do and believe that which moves us towards our goals.” [39:04]
“Building your ultimate sort of version of yourself is a very complicated endeavor, but if you get the identity right, you’re probably 60% of the way there.” [41:08]
“If you’re gonna model yourself after me, let me tell you the ability to build desire. That shit is my like, secret fucking weapon…” [44:45]
“There is real power in anger, frustration, and not wanting somebody to get one over on you. On winning against all odds” [59:39]
“If you want to make real change, the number one thing missing from your equation I promise you is massive pressure. […] There also has to be massive desire, you’ve got to really want it.” [1:00:07]
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@TomBilyeu
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
What was your biggest takeaway from Tom's keynote?
@MarkusEmil-c4i
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
what a subtle segway from michael jordan playing with the flu to him doing his routine lol bro constantly talks about how amazing he is while stating at the beginning "Don't make extraordinary…"
Betch please…you're a charlatan
@mirandaoliver-ul5yi
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Real life
@sagerebel4612
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
So fucking powerful – thank you. This will be a regular go-To from now on!!!
@OzoneMe03
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
The loop😩😂
@darkendkefka
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Even a broken block is right twice a day.
@LeviHeatonIII
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
I love Tom Bilyeu! I am a massive follower. This is the first time I have ever recognized when Tom was talking about something he had no clue what he was talking about. I have been a health & fitness & nutrition enthusiast since I was five years old and a professional my entire adult life. Basically everything he said about bulking, cutting, losing weight, getting lean was half right and half wrong.
@sandram6913
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
This is perfect for me today!
Thank you!!!
@lukastabrizi1335
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Food for thought Bilyeu: Your net worth was generated from selling useless/harmful good-tasting protein bars (as far as I know). Does it reflect real value provided to people? — The same can be said of ~60 % of industries. They provide nothing, yet accumulate money due to ignorance and low-standards. People are dumb and that makes it easy to generate capital (it’s even favourable for capitalists to keep the market that way). It is such an irony — if it weren’t a tragedy for the people that actually want to live healthily and improve. People who take themselves seriously would never eat 99 % of supplements and fitness products on the market. My point is: many people are rich, but they don’t have any actual value to their name.
I think Nietzsche is right in saying the market needs heavier regulation from ‘independent’ experts. He proclaims: ‘Let the stamp of expertise decide whether a product is high-quality or not’ — not its packaging nor sales-tactics.
@jazielsommers6807
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
bro drink some water…. ps: great speech
@ligiasommers
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Deliciously inspiring 🙏🏻✨🌹
@etcetera3282
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
19:00
ATP?
@cordisgermain932
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
I will forever be in-depted to you 😇 you've changed my life I'll continue to preach about your name for the world to hear, you've saved me from a huge financial debt with just little investment, Thanks Ms Karen Investment 🇺🇸🇺🇸
@gone3574
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Usually love this episodes I can't bear to get more than 10 minutes through this
@erikhall7110
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Thanks Tom – So grateful for your message, it inspires action in me, which is why I joined ITU. – I particularly love the part about remaining consistent with who your identity: if you still have ATP (aka alive), you will do whatever is necessary to remain congruent with that identity. – Thanks for helping me take my life to the next level!
@parasprajapati4338
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
😂
@freezerburn84
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Nothing expoused is at all healthy.
It's okay if you're sick to take the time off.
Anything else is toxic behavior from our society. Especially hustle culture.
You choose to work when you can take time off, the mcd worker don't have a choice or they get evicted or go hungry.
#toxicadvice.
@wick2573
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
The market has been pretty bad until today it decided to surge. Everybody was practically crying then. It kept dipping. That's what you get when you feel you can navigate the process on your own. Big thanks to Mrs Stella. I'm not bothered with how bad the market is because my assests are insured due to her advice and I still receive my profits.
@luvinmylife88
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Tom laying down the hard truth! So needed. Practical lessons needed to break all the old patterns.
@alyssamilano7796
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Mr Arthur Harold is the best recommending him to all beginners who wants to recover losses like i did
@EricMeatlikeaking
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
I want to be a famous you tube starter.
@EricMeatlikeaking
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Yes let us have a purpose . And a porpoise?
@createdluck628
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
My new rule in life : I only do and believe that which brings me closer to my goals. I can learn w.e. i need to learn to get to my goals.
@createdluck628
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
how did they not zoom in on his face at 27:29
@BoloBouncer
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
It's healthy to push your limits until you have a good idea of who you are and what you want. But to keep pushing after that, just to please others or to do what you think others expect of you, that type of striving will not lead to excellence. It leads to suffering and living a lie.
If you've honestly faced your fears and grown and grown comfortable in your skin, you may feel ok slowing down and just living a comfortable life. That's perfectly fine. But you still need to put in work to get to that point.
@portalpacific4500
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
I think you're lucky mixed with a lil hard work which lead you to a life where u can manage your finances by making phone calls and being creative and doing whatever u want.
I thinnk you are privileged and I think you skip that reality when offering your imaginary world to everyone.
@skrrrtscooters4164
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Did anyone else notice that EXACTLY 45 minutes into the video Bilyeu references 45 minutes? 44:58
@machobeauty
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Thank you Tom for all your advice.
@I_am_joyful
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Tom, you are an amazing being. I see that many criticize you for your language but I see this not as your limitation but that of language itself. Power and passion are not easily conveyed. Beethoven could express his absolute power through music and exquisite chords but how do we do that with language? I see how Goggins and yourself try to express the power and truth behind what you’ve discovered. The immense freedom one feels when we tap into that power is so hard to relay to others that one naturally starts using foul language. I do not know why culture reserved the expression of powerful emotions to words as “fuck” but they truly come the closest to what one feels when empowered and liberated.
You are a power house and I’m thankful to what you do to help others see that human potential is perhaps unlimited.
@cuocsongquanhta7660
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Good
@monikamikolajczak1902
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
Going out with a flue is negligence towards your own body and everybody around. It is very selfish and dangerous attitude: over dead bodies…
@Haki-Cut
March 1, 2026 at 7:45 am
yeah the spanish flu, first it was arround 1 million deaths than 2 than 20 now 60 and tommorrow everyone's going to die of the spanish flu