Thanks so very much Neal for your fantastic videocast!!! What an absolute gift your conversations are to everyone who watches. You are a gifted host/therapist who guests clearly trust and respond to and your shows have become some of my favorites. Ohhh, the humanity!!! ❤️👏🏽
I still can't comprehend what about me as a child was so difficult for my mom's partners to deal with. I was physically abused by emotionally unintelligent and impatient men who had severe ego problems. I was smacked around for simply asking questions about my environment and how I was treated.
To this day, I will always hate how insecure I became because of it. I still to this day, at 37 years old, cant figure out exactly what was so difficult about me. I wasn't ever allowed to do anything. I was constantly grounded. I got decent grades. I never hurt anybody. I couldnt ever figure it out. I never felt like I belonged to my family.
Love this. So many of us lived thru this. This jumbled childhood, which results could not be repeated with the same outcome. I got the military school threat too. Brochures came in the mail.
10:40…software discussion. Amen. I had Catholicism operating system installed. Took me a while to realize it…remove (as much of it as i could)…replace…and still…its remnants are there…but i feel like more often than not, i can identify…whomp….. that's a catholic thought. That's why I feel such and such a way
Koachner strikes me as a guy who will spend the rest of his life fruitlessly rebelling against his parents and religious upbringing and blaming the past for his current troubles.
yeah having a shit of kids means exhausted parents. we get it, you were born and it was hard. you're 50+ with your own kids and a career, do you need your parents to give you a hug or what
00:00David Koechner was non-compliant as a child, frustrating his parents. 00:40David's mother had six kids over 15 years, facing overwhelming challenges. 03:45David made the decision to leave home at a young age due to feeling disconnected. 04:14David's early decision to leave home wasn't a hollow threat but a sincere desire. 08:31David reflects on ADHD and dyslexia being overlooked and misdiagnosed. 10:24David discusses the constraints of growing up within a specific belief system, like Catholicism. 12:38David shares his experience of working in his father's manufacturing plant at a young age. 13:06David welcomed the idea of military school as an escape from his home life. 14:44David recalls being told to run alongside the car as a way to burn off excess energy. 16:29David jokes about the past trend of children falling down wells, comparing it to his own childhood experiences.
As somebody with a truly bad childhood. At 30 i just figured out i have bad adhd guess iv suppressed it but man things tie together si deeply that you cant even tell
HA! I was an Andy Frain Usher! My brother dated Kelly Frain! WOW LaSalle! I did Cubs and Arlington Park 1983. Met Ernie Banks and he ended up being a lifelong friend. I kept my wool suit and the hat. I was placed in deep center field- Cubs- Cards. Willie McGee Cards CF…' Man take that coat off you makin me hot' Next Inning- Boy I said take that coat off!
The face dave makes at 10:09, I had the same look of dread but also resolve and closure learning what I felt was true all along . In my case it was that my parents had me and really made drastic decisions because of the time they lived in. I felt I didn’t belong here for so long. Learning I wasn’t expected gave me some peace.
I felt like I was in the wrong family. I left at seventeen and never looked back. I’m 53 now and I just found out that my parents had their favorite child and I wasn’t eithers favorite. I WAS in the wrong family. So liberating, actually.
@roubaix11
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
Thanks so very much Neal for your fantastic videocast!!! What an absolute gift your conversations are to everyone who watches. You are a gifted host/therapist who guests clearly trust and respond to and your shows have become some of my favorites.
Ohhh, the humanity!!! ❤️👏🏽
@koreylawson9311
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
I’m from the same town and when he says he had to go I felt that cause I just moved to Austin and it’s a crazy change but it’s great
@pjb5151
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
So miscarriages dont count? Maybe you should feel fro your mother??
@scottworsham
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
"I have to get the fuck out of here" perfectly describes my childhood
@franswiggidy
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
These guys both sounds like siblings you don't want.
@poopsmagoo
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
"the west side of the house" <– a man who attends the sun's movement
@jpl1608
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
I still can't comprehend what about me as a child was so difficult for my mom's partners to deal with. I was physically abused by emotionally unintelligent and impatient men who had severe ego problems. I was smacked around for simply asking questions about my environment and how I was treated.
To this day, I will always hate how insecure I became because of it. I still to this day, at 37 years old, cant figure out exactly what was so difficult about me. I wasn't ever allowed to do anything. I was constantly grounded. I got decent grades. I never hurt anybody. I couldnt ever figure it out. I never felt like I belonged to my family.
@TheReal-Mōz-Art
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
Great conversation between two great guys.
@JosephFarrier-c8q
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
David is a good lookin dude oddly though huh
@ald.3387
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
Love this. So many of us lived thru this. This jumbled childhood, which results could not be repeated with the same outcome. I got the military school threat too. Brochures came in the mail.
@raymond_sycamore
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
holy shit he's describing my childhood.
@marcalvarez4890
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
David Koechner is so so much more self aware and smart than i expected.
Hes a really pleasant surprise.
Wonderful!
@marcalvarez4890
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
Id listen to Neal Brennan read the phone book.
Thats how much i enjoy him.
@jerryp6001
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
10:40…software discussion.
Amen.
I had Catholicism operating system installed.
Took me a while to realize it…remove (as much of it as i could)…replace…and still…its remnants are there…but i feel like more often than not, i can identify…whomp….. that's a catholic thought. That's why I feel such and such a way
@hankgoresich6836
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
Koachner strikes me as a guy who will spend the rest of his life fruitlessly rebelling against his parents and religious upbringing and blaming the past for his current troubles.
@AaronRClark
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
yeah having a shit of kids means exhausted parents. we get it, you were born and it was hard. you're 50+ with your own kids and a career, do you need your parents to give you a hug or what
@-Evil-Genius-
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 David Koechner was non-compliant as a child, frustrating his parents.
00:40 David's mother had six kids over 15 years, facing overwhelming challenges.
03:45 David made the decision to leave home at a young age due to feeling disconnected.
04:14 David's early decision to leave home wasn't a hollow threat but a sincere desire.
08:31 David reflects on ADHD and dyslexia being overlooked and misdiagnosed.
10:24 David discusses the constraints of growing up within a specific belief system, like Catholicism.
12:38 David shares his experience of working in his father's manufacturing plant at a young age.
13:06 David welcomed the idea of military school as an escape from his home life.
14:44 David recalls being told to run alongside the car as a way to burn off excess energy.
16:29 David jokes about the past trend of children falling down wells, comparing it to his own childhood experiences.
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@mattfelldog9270
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
Man, what a couple of whiners… get over it
@Bad-decisions-and-good-times
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
As somebody with a truly bad childhood. At 30 i just figured out i have bad adhd guess iv suppressed it but man things tie together si deeply that you cant even tell
@MelissaThompson432
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
15:09 I'm autistic and still I have great sympathy for his parents….
@stevesanderson524
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
HA! I was an Andy Frain Usher! My brother dated Kelly Frain! WOW LaSalle! I did Cubs and Arlington Park 1983. Met Ernie Banks and he ended up being a lifelong friend. I kept my wool suit and the hat. I was placed in deep center field- Cubs- Cards. Willie McGee Cards CF…' Man take that coat off you makin me hot' Next Inning- Boy I said take that coat off!
@Bacongrease4
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
The face dave makes at 10:09, I had the same look of dread but also resolve and closure learning what I felt was true all along . In my case it was that my parents had me and really made drastic decisions because of the time they lived in. I felt I didn’t belong here for so long. Learning I wasn’t expected gave me some peace.
@digger3578
September 9, 2025 at 1:26 am
I felt like I was in the wrong family. I left at seventeen and never looked back. I’m 53 now and I just found out that my parents had their favorite child and I wasn’t eithers favorite.
I WAS in the wrong family. So liberating, actually.
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