What really makes a man desirable?

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So many wonderful men in this video ❤️

Commenting from 2026. As someone who has their MA in Anthro, and wrote a thesis about online dating back in 2019, I loved this video. It made me want to get back into my area of interest. Keep up the great stuff.

So… somehow between "Men don't understand desirability" and "The best advice I can offer…" we switched from "women don't need men anymore, so now you have to acquire a skill or develop some novel personality" to "be yourself. anyone advising you that you need to level up some meta-attribute is giving bad advice"

This what I mean man lmao… like there's no consistency to anything that you say… but there is consistency to your agenda, and that agenda seems mostly like dismissing men's issues and signal boosting the opinions of women who never show up in the real world, only on the internet to contradict whatever negative dating experiences men have had.

42:13 new bio quote FD thank you 😭

It is so “curious” that their whole thing is that women don’t know what they want or are always playing games.
It’s almost like when u talk to an actual woman each one is an individual with different tastes and if u ask them about AndrewTate’s tips, 99% of them would say that’s all wrong.

The grifters already bring an answer to the first logical question, but that’s telling

Please invite Sabrina Strings to come on the podcast! Her work is GROUNDBREAKING. She can explain how male patriarchy led to sexism (globally), which led to white supremacy and the European colonization/healthism that we see in diet/gym/"wellness" culture. Engaging in gym/fitness culture isn't an innocuous hobby. What Foreign man described was disordered eating if not a full blown diagnosable eating disorder. This is socialization, not grooming and drinking from "male tear" mugs is punching up. Women have been trying to save, rescue, and heal men from themselves for too damn long. Help yourselves and each other. Let us drink from our mugs in peace 😇.

Being yourself means you accept rejection, If you want everyone then you have to be an alien that changing.

lol, even though I agree. No one talks about the red pilled women.

At the end of the day, dating is a market and like every other market, it follows the typical market rules

You should do a video on the Afroman trial

17:19 Nick Jonas?

I’m currently on a bit of a self improvement journey. Trying to work out more and be healthier. I think as far as the statement of “being your best self” goes, it is far healthier mentally, and much more significant, if you seek out self improvement for yourself.

I’m relatively secure in my own masculinity. I’m not exactly the “traditional” man, but I’m happy with the kind of man that I am. My wife is the breadwinner of the family, and I’m very proud of her for that. I think any man who is threatened by that concept is more obsessed with being able to identify with that traditional lifestyle and what other men think of him than actually pursuing what makes him feel good about himself on an individual level. And that’s really unfortunate.

So are you saying we should be in a matriarchy?

1:02:52 I remember when I was a kid, my dad used to train my sister and I to box so we could defend ourselves by ourselves if he wasn’t there. He was raised in a very masculine Italian family who praised things like excessive wealth, extramarital affairs and domestic abuse. He avoided all that stuff and don’t get me wrong, he was an amazing father and husband, but he was still old school in a lot of ways. One night when I was 8 and my sister was 7, we were training and sweating our asses off. My dad was working with me one on one while my sister was doing cardio. I was tired, slowing down a little bit and was wanting to call it done when my dad, trying to motivate me, said “Come on, bud! You’re hittin like a girl, fight like a man!” It was kind of a record-scratch moment for me cuz I was tired, hangry and also eight years old. I kinda snapped and said “Yeah? Well Kenzie (sister) hits pretty fuckin hard, so I’ll take it as a compliment.” and that was the first time I ever dropped an f-bomb AT my dad. I was so mad at A) the fact that he even suggested that my sister was weak (she isn’t, she’ll rip a mfs head off) and B) the fact that he couldn’t see I was visibly tired. I was so mad that I punched the mitts off his hands and walked away. He just let me too. Didn’t yell, just kinda hung his mouth open in stunned silence.

Afterwards I went to apologize to him for lashing out and he just kinda smiled and went “hey buddy, it’s all good. I shouldn’t have said that, and you were tired, I just want you to know I’m sorry. You’re right too, Kenzie does hit pretty fuckin hard. My dad always used to use that phrase ‘like a girl’ and I didn’t think much of it, I just wanted to motivate but I went about it the wrong way, and I’m sorry. I’ll do better. I love you, pal.”

My dad was raised by a father who was a cheater, substance abuser, woman hater, child beater and a misogynist but he didn’t let that shape him, and a lot of that had to do with my grandmother’s positive influence on him and the way he treats women as well as his fellow man. If anything, those were all indications of what he swore NOT to be. My dad was super athletic, very much into basketball, football, tennis and baseball, but he was also was a nerdy romantic who loved buying my mom flowers, cooking her dinner and watching her favorite rom-coms and nerd flicks with her. He loved bands like Guns n Roses and Metallica, but also absolutely adored Prince and Whitney Houston. He would sing “Raspberry Beret” in the shower, and he was a damn good singer too. My dad was a gym rat, very muscular, appeared very masculine and had a relatively commanding and deep voice, but was also very tender, sweet and sensitive at certain points. I remember him singing, through tears, songs from their wedding to her while she was unconscious after her hernia surgery.

This video drummed up a lot of great memories of my dad and I. Even if I don’t actively try to follow in his steps, I find myself similar to him in a lot of ways, which makes me proud to be his son. Thank you for making this kind of content, FD. Thank you for making a difference. Keep up the good work, love you man.

9:37 white guy sounds a little like jay z😂

What makes a man desirable is whatever the person who is attracted to a man finds desirable. But I'm a fan of sophistry and sig so I'm still watching the video.