If You Don’t Understand This, You Don’t Understand People
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In this video, we explore what it means to be “reasonable.” What are we at risk of when we misconstrue the nature of reasonability? How do we find the sweet spot of mutual respect that we are all really after?
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August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
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@gutar5675
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
This world is becoming more inhumane by the day. I feel like I've been gaslighting myself all my life that people actually want to be reasonable and caring. It seems like it was all a show and one more method of competition. I am losing my faith in you all and I don't even know why I'm here anymore. Any day now, I shall be released.
@Simontolivar
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Given a choice I'd rather not bother understanding people.
@salis-salis
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
There's an unreasonable amount of basketball-americans in this video.
@Minisynapse
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
This is about shared reality and your individual uniqueness and its frictions with it. We must share reality, otherwise ethics or science would not work. But they are imperfect, as we all are, as are our collective efforts for truth and good. You are an expression of pursuits to these ideals, and you reflect on the "average" of the collective. You might know better, or "gooder" in many cases, and if you just reduce towards the mean, the average, you often end up sacrificing the instances where you really do know better or "gooder". This incompatibility, or misalignment, causes suffering, because you sacrifice yourself. We all have to sometimes choose between our truth or good, and the social truth or good. When you authentically express yourself, you risk opposing the social reality. Succumbing to it is people pleasing at the cost of your authenticity. Facing that means losing aspects of the social, while maintaining your authenticity.
@unconditioned2
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Whatever this is great news for a bowling ball. Step in line
@Victor...P1
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Interesting, what should one do when you simply can’t walk away?
@DeannaNewton-d7x
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
What you were talking about when it comes to being shifted by our early years as kids, you were right. My whole life since the 4th Grade I convinced myself that no one would want to be around me and that people don't like me just because of my mistakes. So I would isolate myself from others because I know they wouldn't want to be around me after being told "Leave me alone" over a dozen times by half of my classmates while the other half do nothing about it. It was like I deserved it and I genuinely thought that I did deserve it. So if everyone wanted me to leave them alone, then I will leave everyone alone then. However, my family didn't want me to do that to them and over the years they've seen me suffer because of it. I was just telling them that I was giving them what they want, but I'm actually punishing them at the same time because of it as well as not giving anyone else a chance whenever I just speak when I'm spoken to. I'm working on it right now and I realized that I didn't deserve the treatment I got from my classmates just because I made a mistake and that I shouldn't be fearful of making mistakes because of it.
@gzoechi
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
"Don't care about what other people think" is short for "Don't care about what you think other people think about you, because they hardly ever think about you at all".
@TheCinefotografiando
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Glad I found you
@Luna00128
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
But how to set boundaries? When to set boundaries? With whom?and where to break boundaries?
@Aki.0049
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
This seems similar to the paradox of tolerance – in both scenarios, the reasonable thing to do is to not accept unreasonable people or intolerant views, as doing so would just lead to them overpowering reasonable people.
@KaransinghKaransinghchundawat
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
It’s crazy how long I searched outside myself for answers. Coaches, YouTube vids, even crystals. But nothing really clicked. Then someone mentioned Manifest the Unseen by Luna Rivers in a comment, and I checked it out on youtube. That was it for me. The switch flipped. Life didn’t get easier, I just got aligned. Crazy how life works 💰✨
@appa_Pisal_29
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
If you're reading this right now, I just want to say I'm rooting for you. We’re strangers, but that doesn’t mean I don’t care. I know what it’s like to feel like you're pushing a boulder uphill. I felt that way until I picked up Manifest the Unseen by Luna Rivers I can’t explain it perfectly, but it changed my whole perspective. After checking it out on youtube and reading it things have been flowing—money, peace, confidence. Maybe this is your moment too. Stay open. Wishing you more than you ever imagined. 💫💰
@CRICKET_EDITZ_1873
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
This comment section probably won’t remember me, but maybe someone scrolling needs this. A few months ago I hit a wall. Nothing made sense. I bought Manifest the Unseen by Luna Rivers after seeing it here on yt. I had no expectations. But chapter by chapter, it broke something open in me. Not motivation, momentum. Wishing that for you too!✨
@SurendraRj37
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Honestly, it breaks my heart how Manifest the Unseen by Luna Rivers isn’t getting the attention it deserves. This book changed me. I saw the channel on youtube and my mind was blown. People need to wake up to this. Things have been flowing. money, peace, confidence. Maybe this is your moment too.
@bhaiya_thakur
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
What really blows my mind is how little curiosity people have when it comes to manifestation and the deeper mechanics behind it. Most folks are satisfied with the recycled 'think positive and visualize' narrative — which, sure, has its place — but that’s just the surface. There’s a whole architecture of laws and principles underneath that most never even touch. The fact that so few have heard of Luna Rivers, someone who spent years decoding this hidden structure and laid it all out in Manifest the Unseen, says everything. People aren’t necessarily lacking potential — they’re just not willing to question beyond the obvious. And that comfort zone? It’s costing them their freedom.💰✨
@BustaBunny3045
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Set your boundaries with an iron fist.
@ConquestadorExplore
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
It doesnt seem too complex, i cant be the only one thinking its one of most basic knowledge every self aware ambitious person, its not Nobel prize
@TheInkyBlackDot
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Thank you for your videos. Your powers of self-introspection and observation that you share with the world have opened the eyes of many. If one day I can inform and educate quite as aptly as you do in your messaging and writing, than perhaps one day I might pass the torch of enlightenment along to future generations.
@Bach-f8o
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Mediocre slop self help scam
@zqxzqxzqx1
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Inapplicable for neurodivergent people.
@ketsuko453
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
It's the important people to you who matter. The random strangers are the ones you should care much, much less about trying to please. I'll care when the ones I love and care about start telling me I'm out of line. Until then, the rest of the world is mostly so much noise as I know most of them have no intention of altering themselves for my sake. They just want what they want.
@chrisalex82
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Clicking of ts is probably narcissitic
@russriley3005
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
I do understand this and the fact that you are trying to ease the listener into believing that conforming to norms is the best answer. do not go outside of norms, think like others think. You are trying to condition us into a fascist society
@johnnydropkicks
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
Well, it's a good thing that the minute-and-a-half long ad read got the video to be over eight minutes long. Because, why not use the ad read as padding for an additional ad break?
@LovekeshParte-i4l
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
nice!💫💰
@jeremiahshohum
August 16, 2026 at 2:58 am
5:23 Th first 40 years of my life I’ve self-censored myself for the very people who emotionally abused me. It led to suicide attempts, addiction, and ultimately chronic health issues.
I am now free for the first time and realizing that no one really wants someone (a man at least) who feels too much or says what everyone is thinking. So I now find my own company to be preferable to anyone else, and save my thoughts for the couple people I trust.