4 Problems with “Rebound” Dating
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@lindawells9328
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
You are telling the truth . Be blessed and safe . Miss . Linda 😊😊😊
@The_Darrell
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
My ex is a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style, and I recently realized that they are known for rebound relationships (and she has one).
My ex pushed me away after she opened up about her abusive ex (pushing people away after opening up is another trait of Fearful Avoidant). I didn't take her pushing me away well, and I got the wrong idea… I wish I had known about Fearful Avoidants before I engaged in an argument with her that ultimately lead to our breakup.
I'm doing no contact now (day 18)… Planning on reaching out on day 50. Wish me luck! I've learned a lot over the last 18 days, and I'm no longer upset that she pushed me away after opening up. I understand it was from fear of getting close. I think I just need to portray what I now know in an email… that may not result in us getting back together, but at least we will both know/understand each other more.
@leemaclennan2832
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Sweetie, my ex left me saying, I can't give you more ?? then I find out he is in another relationship, but get this, if this is a rebound, he is crazy for her ?? What ?? He left me for her. He didn't even take time to heal. What happened to our relationship ?? It's been 1 year, he is still with her. It makes me sick !!! It's killing me to this day knowing how fast he moved on not knowing how much I suffered and am still suffering through the break up. He is not even thinking about me (for real ?). I feel stuck. It's hard for me to move on cause I really loved him 😢😢. Please help, any advice moving forward. Thank you !! Big Hug !! ❤❤
@lordsith952
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I was dating my ex for 7 years. I gave him everything and more. He ended it because he stoped loving me and he said he wanted something different. 4 months later hes dating his co worker and hes living with her and her son. 🙃💔
@naibunty8909
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
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@franklujan8304
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
You know my friend you're so right I enjoyed your video As go out with my girlfriend for a year and 8 months found out that she was cheating on me she broke it off June 22nd she had a new boyfriend rub it in my face yet there was rude sharp push my buttons I totally ignored or she text me 3 times alredy know I'm sorry it 4 times this morning I told ignore her yet really hurts what she did I don't wash is doing it but she did me a favor and made me stronger
@paul-ku4pr
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Im going through my ex on a rebound, thanks for your advice
@davidsims5796
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Great video. I have a friend, and she got out of messy divorce back in September 2016, and 4 months later in January 2016, she got engaged, and they were married in September 2017, now she has been separated for a month but a month later she got with some random Venezuelan boy whom she just ran into, talking about how sweet, fun and kind he is, wanting him to teach her his culture also talking about having a relationship and a future with him, then she fooled around and had a One Night Stand with him, then already she had a baby by him then got married a month ago and she doesn’t even know him.
@Cmercedes822
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Wow thank you!!!!
@CommanderWaddles
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
What if your version of rebounding isn't at all a search for romantic interests? Ya know, just searching for good friendships & sex partners? ( after my really bad breakup, I just instantly became emotionally detatched romantically speaking & uninterested in commited relationships )
@minahlew3181
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
This is by far one of my favorite rebound videos. Real and new perspectives on this common topic.
@allygarr8928
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I’m in a very successful “rebound” relationship with the man Id like to marry someday. I initially hooked up with him just to have fun, free of the constraints of my former abusive relationship. He was an old friend and had shown interest before. We talked like old friends and I told him it couldn’t go anywhere but fell in love with him anyway and eventually asked him out for real. I guess maybe it’s different because I’d fallen out of love with my ex a while before without knowing until I felt mostly relief when he moved across the continent. So I guess in certain situations I think it can work. I’m not sure about my reputation but I know that I’m happy and very much in love with my bf and I think that’s really all that matters.
@MaricaAmbrosius
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Daredevil's rebound is usually Natasha.
@deathbyparadox6492
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Actually some loved ones of mine got themselves involved with some really shitty people because of rebound dating… but it was actually the opposite of your third point you'd mentioned: instead of idolizing their exes they idolized the new guys and ignored their faults to the point of dismissing any "red flags" for abusive behavior. I'm not saying every rebound partner is gonna be abusive, but keep in mind that there's a special class of assholes who can zero in on the vulnerable and insecure just to take advantage of them. Which makes those coming out of a difficult breakup easy prey, especially if they enter the dating scene with their guard down and lowered standards. So please be careful guys!
@LittleSpaceCase
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
polyamorous tears
@TheFogIsRising
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I couldn't agree more with this video. Honestly I always thought that rebound dating was never a good idea because it doesn't take into account the other person's feeling. If you're rebound dating and constantly comparing that person to your ex and or using them for your own comfort without caring about what that person thinks or feels than the relationship can become extremely one sided. Relationships are a two way street and in order to have a successful relationship you need to give and take.
@inertia86
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
While I don't agree with rebound dating. I do think getting out there and being social after a break up is a good thing. Try some new things. Make some new friends or see old friends. Just getting out and finding new things to fill the time that you would have been spending on your ex.
@8cyber.muse8
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Do you have a girlfriend?
@ascvb3
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Im sorry, but that beard is killing me. It looks like you were split on whether or not to cut it off XD. Plz salvage that beard lol, I feel so mean saying it, but that beard situation is a crisis.
@RoxStew5
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I disagree. People recoup emotionally from certain life issues at different rates. Some slower than others, but when you're ready, you're ready and its not up to someone ELSE to declare a time they think is socially appropriate for you. Only you know when you're emotionally available for someone new in your life, and I've seen relationships that turned into marriages after meeting each other subsequent to recent break ups.
@AstreaMartinez
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I agree with most of this. I think that, in some cases, it may be good for the person to "get back on the horse" so to speak. If you know the breakup wasn't your fault, you've assessed the situation, and feel justified in getting back out there, there's no reason not to. In my case, I wasn't content to settle into the "Woe is me" attitude. I knew what went wrong, what I wanted, and went out and found it. I was definitely up front about my recent heartbreak, and luckily I found someone willing to talk to me about it. Ultimately, I came to the conclusion that what I wanted and what was were two different things and that what I wanted was exactly what I found in the new person. I realize that not everyone is so lucky or self aware.
@warrensaunders6835
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Apparently I pretty much did all of the above dude you hit the nail on the head. What I will say is in some ways it was better for both parties in the respect that I was and still am in love with my girlfriend who was around when. I had already rebounded spectacularly. I just didn't notice it but I eventually took the plunge and told her how I feel now I'm stronger person for it and an even better friend to my girlfriend. I felt a little bit guilty to my rebound girlfriend she ended it not that it makes me blameless but I told her I was in love with another and I had to be honest with her. Needless to say it didn't go down well but the rest goes without saying. Thanks again Janitor
@soulconnoisseur1
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Thank you for this. I recently fell out of a long relationship with someone and there's quite a bit of pain. I still feel myself wondering if another person will help the healing process. But your advice is often sound. Your words makes sense, this video included.
Thank you, sir. I'm taking this to heart and letting the true healing continue.
@Jesses001
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Dating humans is a pain in the ass. They lack logic and reason. I think I will just stick to myself.
@gyrorayo2572
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
My ex started dating three days after we broke up.
@heytharbeb
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
for the most part I agree with you, but I really feel that your opinion that relationships with one or both persons having been emotionally damaged never last long. it's that kind of mindset that makes people suffering with depression think they'll never be loved. the thing about being damaged and in a relationship is if it's a strong bond, you empathize and compromise because you care. it just sounded kind of like a "if you've been abused and you're emotionally damaged from it no one's truly going to love you" and that's just kinda shitty.
@Apollothe3
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
"other people can't fill your holes…"
and I'm the childish man that laughed.
@underyourbreath331
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I get the impression what you're talking about is the 1 week – 1 month rebounds. Imma play devil's advocate here for a sec, because I agree with everything you're saying, but the sum of the message appears to be "after a while just get over it, cause other people can't do that for you". That's all well and good, but not very useful. There are several people in my life who have loved and lost either via one-sided dumping, semi-mutual parting, or death and still have feelings in their heart. After the loss, they do everything they're "supposed" to do, it's not like they FB stalk or any of that crap. They do everything "right" and yet even after 7+ years they still hurt. At what point do you say "fuck it, i need to at least try" and not cut yourself off from all possible romantic contact? In the same way people don't stop loving the people they loved who died, I don't think it's fair to say to people must become spinsters until they're 100% healed and over a breakup. We all have baggage, so should you pass on someone you really connect with just because the sting is a little more fresh than for some people?
I dunno, I'm not even that old and already divorces are becoming more common in the dating pool, I guess I'm just becoming more forgiving of people's romantic pasts.
@ojman000
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
your video really helped me , I made the mistake of rebound dating but I kinda came to same conclusion.
@joelferguson8572
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Last weekend my gf of 3 years broke it off with me because she wanted kids and I don't. We're still on the same lease for another 2 months though so I was going to hold off on rebound dating out of respect, but this video convinced me that it isn't healthy in anyway.
@niamhhudson-fiorilla5317
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I definitely agree. I personally feel dating should be strictly casual and playful until you've really come to peace with yourself and find some acceptance of yourself and if you are filled with the saddness and potential anger and bitterness of losing a loved one you are only using others to boost your own sense of self and you're not only using them but not handelling your own emotions in a mature and sustainable manner. It says to me you depend on others to find your own sense of self and therefore aren't fully aware of who you are as a person and you need some time to sort that out before you start looking for a serious, monogamous relationship.
@robplugge7628
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
Hey I'm new around here, but I've enjoyed your videos thus far. Thanks for sharing!
@LezleyDavidson
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
"Other people can't fill your holes…" BWAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAA!!! Yaaaassss.
@crabslol
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I would listen the crap out of any podcast with you in it
@Krysten1785
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I subscribed because I like your hair.
@amandareynolds-gregg5962
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
In general, I definitely agree with this. I will admit though the time between my last relationship and the one I'm currently in was very short. The break up of my last one though was a bit complicated and drawn out. Like, we knew we weren't compatible due to conflicting thoughts about kids (he wanted them, I didn't) but then held off actually breaking up until the end of our lease. So I went through the stages of dealing with a break up while still technically in the relationship. By the time, we had actually broken up, I had already processed everything and was ready for a new beginning. My current boyfriend and I went on a date a month-ish later and have now been together over a year. So yeah, everyone's different.
@thgritic102
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I don't get why anyone wants to be a rebound in the first place. Especially if the person knows they have a backup person that like them. It's like "Oh hey, we just split, but since you're my Plan B option and great as a shoulder to cry on, let's date!" Then that causes a whole lot of problems.
I mean, I guess if you're into that sort of thing then go ahead, but for me, I would feel horrible because once that person recovers fully, I would be dumped for somebody else.
Anyway, I do agree with you in this video.
@Ryesagain
October 15, 2025 at 1:19 am
I got out of a 4 yr relationship in Nov, she started dating in january, I was pretty hurt because of that. (also found out she was looking for another date the week after we broke up. Whats a healthy cool down time between relationships?
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