Death to “Black Love”(tm)
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“Black Love” as a concept has been around for decades as an aesthetic that black people aspire to when seeking out romantic partnerships. However, when you sit back and examine the concept of how we imagine black love, you realize the “black” part of it doesn’t mean a whole lot. In fact, a lot of how we look at and define black love seems to be directly connected to an image of love that is completely pulled from frameworks that were never meant for black people.
In this video F.D examines the dangers and problems of accepting this framework uncritically and talks to various black couples about their experiences with love as well as shows like HBO’s Love Live and Insecure as well and numerous pop culture happenings with intended goal of killing our concept of black love goals.
00:00 A word from A.J Signifier
03:50 Black Love really ain’t it
11:10 Black Love and Gender Roles ain’t it
33:26 Black Love and Growth ain’t it
39:17 Black Love and Conflict ain’t it
50:01 The Smith’s might be on to something…(also ignore the typo)
55:48 Final Thoughts
Beat- Jobii, 404 Days of Christmas https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ArJGgNHslA
Tee Noir- Polyamory, entanglements, and black love enterprise- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-bplPQGtlM&t=250s
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@FDSignifire
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
I know that if different people are not feeling this one for different reasons, then I've probably accomplished exactly what I was going for with this one.
@spaceisnothing
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
talking about, "what i was doing was my way of trying to show love to you, but i wasn't loving you the way you wanted to be loved" was so poignant & sweet it nearly brought a tear to my eye. honest imperfection & repair feel so much more important to me than a relationship never having any flaws in the first place – kinda like how it's said that you don't know a person until you've seen their reactions to difficulties in life. "sure, you have fun together, but can you fix something as a team with this person?"
@bluecat124-h6y
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
❤
@reidwilliams9970
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
2:46 I had the video playing in another room so didn't realize Foreign was dubbing someone else's quote so started the video like FOREIGN NO
@Nate-er4pn
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
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@IsoYear
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
id just like to say i got things out of this, as a man whos been married successfully for 10 years. theres always more to learn, thank you man
@rubixqoob8601
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
Have rewatched this a bunch of times and it always gives me hope. Bless you.
@christorafields6658
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
❤❤
@acv1123
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
Great video
@Anthony2X19
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
🫡
@nickjones5495
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
3:00 is that Foreign ??
@KaiTenSatsuma
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
I appreciate the alternative interpretation of the "Entanglement" story – maybe because I only really saw the event based around the clip from the show, or maybe because I have a subconscious bias towards Will since I'm a man as well and related to the pain it looked like he was feeling I hadn't thought about what Jada had gone through.
It doesn't quite excuse what happened, but it makes it clear that everyone involved was a kind of victim of circumstance because of a lot of toxic external forces pushing them in a particular direction.
@Galencraw
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
I laughed so hard I ended in a coughing fit at the Repo! joke. That killed me.
@Agnessiak
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
Just stumbled upon this despite being a long-time viewer and… thank you.
I'm a white, non-hetero, poly woman married to a white, hetero, non-poly (but accepting) man. We're going through a serious conflict and as it was said, we don't see couples going through that, we just see either happy couples, entirely miserable ones, or divorces. I'm from a dysfunctional family, conflict-resolution is something I'm still trying to figure out, and the fact that in my society we're taught not to talk about family issues with other people doesn't help.
This vid gave me warmth and advice that I needed. <3
@ArthurWilson-qf5hk
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
You and your wife are so beautiful together it's crazy.
❤❤
@jasminejxoxoxo
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
As a black women that is a single mom of 2 children 2 bds and have had this stigma on I thank you for not being mean or nasty in your content
@wesleywashington1251
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
Do beautiful black women intentionally put less effort into maintaining their appearance once they get married? Because I noticed the wife of a close friend of mine cut off most of her natural hair once she no longer needed to look so good. It bothered me but I don't plan on bringing it up with him. It's not really any of my business, obviously. I just think he deserves a wife that is just as beautiful as she was when they met.
Another childhood friend of mine had a wife who gained a lot of weight after they got married. I remember being offended FOR him. They ended up getting a divorce, of course, but I wholeheartedly expect her to lose all that weight as quickly as possible to attract another man.
@Pyasa.shaitan
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
41:50
@darthregulus
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
By the way, I love Black women, the only women worth marrying and going through things with. As a Black man, I know this instinctively, they understand our struggle. I am happy with my wife 100% good and bad times. I take pride in my wife, I am proud of my wife, I would die for my wife, and she knows this.
@darthregulus
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
At the end of the day, capitalism is the problem, and the limitations that are placed on the individuals in relationship. As Black people we are already limited, and it places pressure on family relationships on a whole. However the family has to have a visionary, someone who dreams of elevating their partners and themselves past these limitations , because it eases conflict and allows for love to come through, because you know why you want to succeed, it’s for your partner. And you must tell them that, and listen to them and their concerns, and change. You must be flexible, and remember this is the person you love. White capitalism has been destroying our families for generations. It is imperative that we see our success as our partners success, so if the job is getting in the way of bonding with your partner, quit the job. Never quit your partner if they are standing by you. You can find another job, you cannot buy the time you invested in a loved one.
@conenubi701
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
Just seeing this now, but appreciate this video so much
@That_One_Gaming_Guy
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
1:01 I know I'm late with this one, but your spouse speaks the truth.
@wugsayhello
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
Got damn I’m watching this the day after Rocky got acquitted 😂😂😂😂
@DeronHargrove
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
I adore the variety of relationships you showcase with the interviews. Really means a lot
@bre1730
July 31, 2026 at 6:01 am
this video is what the community needs
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