How P*rn Ruins Relationships

Have you noticed the lack of social skills in screen-oriented Gen Z yet?

I do not blame them. They did not ask to be guinea pigs for research by the tech companies, nor to suffer school closings at key years of their lives during COVID.

But all the same, given their social skills, they are headed towards the lonely "Have Sex Alone Generation". I bet there are no tax dollars paid out by Trump for their rehabilitative therapy, either, yet they need to start from courtship on up….

Tigers just eat their young and get it over with.

(About 5% or more will navigate through the mess, but about 5% or more always do navigate through the mess. The cards they were dealt, did not ask to play, but must play anyway.)

If I were not likely to get paid therapists, and if I were Gen-Z, I would take matters into my own hand, round up my closest male and female friends, and start having nights of spin the bottle. Sounds insane, but I saw it work for learning and improving social skills with younger friends of mine back when Gen-X were young, and the generations were not so hostile to each other. Good luck. Don't judge folks as fast as swipe right, swipe left.

"Courtship" is just a fancy name for making friends first, seeing who you really trust. Spin the bottle is the excuse or technique, not the reason for socializing, building-up skill and self-confidence.

Pro-tip: for most young these days, this post is too long for today's attention spans. But those that need it, by some — coincidence — might find it to read it "in a timely manner." In a deterministic universe, can there ever be pure coincidence? My message in a bottle, tossed to the sea.

(Gen-X was horrifying enough terrorists to haul me off on free bird, spontaneous road trips with them as a witness, excuse, elder, sounding-board, or chaperone — I never did figure out the cause of their invites, but I sure as hell learned not to have a fixed schedule when arriving at the coffee shop! Now the gens are split, and a house divided. It is what it is.)

I don't fully understand the arguments made against masturbation – porn/sex work? Yes, sure – once you go down the rabbit hole of the consequences of systematic visual desensitization and the REALITY of sex work? Probably a part of humanity/society we want to stop watering (though I have nuanced views on legality of things we still judge as "unhealthy")…. but your relationship with your own body? Why is there shame around that? My guess is it is leftover from puritanical RELIGION vs spirituality and faith. Steven nailed it I think – where is the feeling of shame coming from? Are you being disrespectful to yourself or others?

I only poke at this because I feel like unfortunately our society is set up to whatever you attach shame to ends up on the doorstep of the feminine to take out to the trash. We all need to understand what trash is ours and what is anothers. Women should not hold ALL of the responsibility of a man's sexuality in my opinion. And vice versa 🤷‍♀

Damn. I guess like any other high, some people can do it moderately and it's no big deal, some people either need to stop completely or get destroyed by it. Like most young men, I was big into porn for a time, but honestly i don't think it ever negatively impacted my relationships much. Then when you have a family and your kids around it's just not something you get to do that much anymore, and it's fine. …But yea, on the super rare occasions that I'm home alone without much to do.. oh hell yeah, it's fun time!

Sorry for all the bros that can't keep it at a healthy level, I can totally relate to that, but my demons are different ones, not porn, thankfully

This is such cap. corn has actually helped my relationship with me and my wife. She knows I watch it and doesn’t have an issue and that releases a lot of the anxiety and shame over it.

I clicked randomly, but this is actually awesome

Stopped porn not too long ago

This guys sounds like a fruit cake