How to live after your soulmate has died | Michelle Thaller

I lost my dad almost 5 years ago!!! It makes very sad!! I still can’t believe he’s gone. My dad died of Covid. I’ve been so depressed. He was the best dad I’ve ever had. I dream about him so much. Sometimes I feel like he’s here. I have not been the same since it happened. 🥲

I sobbed listening to this, do sorry Dr. Thaller for your loss!

The painful truth is, all love ends in pain, when I was young, when I was middle aged, now I'm with my long term love, heading in to my 60's.. do I want her to die before me and live with the aching pain of her loss, or do I want to die before her… but the guilt, the pain of her alone.. her pain her loss as I would her? all love ends in pain… life..f*ck you ..F*CK YOU!

Michelle. xxxxxxxxxxxxx

My wife has had dementia for at least 5years,been in care for a bit over 2. It’s an illness that has no cure and I’ve watched this wonderful woman who’s been my wife for 62 years gradually disappear incrementally day by day. It’s a cruel disease,you’re still responsible for her wellbeing while consumed with grief. ❤❤

Seeing her story and all of the comments made me realize the way i lost a loved one is cruel better to say i am worse i lost my mother some weeks ago i still cant believe shes gone it all feel so blur yet i remember the day she died so clearly and all of the people my mother face she looked alive her mouth was opened it looked like she was crying my siblings were saying but to me her face looked the same to me like she was sleeping sometimes when i cried a lot that i cant even tell whose screaming was that it was my own voice? I miss her i keep on replaying memories of her i wanted to talk to her more tell her about me more know more about her ask her about herself her going made me realize she never knew me and neither did i. I never tried never thought something like this can happened i didn't even talked to her that day i shouted at her a lot and mostly ignored what she asked of me

It was difficult learning how to live alone. New undertakings learning how to shop. Eventually you relearn to live again.

I was 22 years old, head-over-heals in love with my fiance. We just had a baby boy. I got a call that he died in a skydiving accident. I could even feel sadness that day only intense anger and rage. It was so hard to accept. I went into auto-pilot mode for many years until I found another man that deserved my love. It required me to heal. Still working on it but I just realized after 12 years of trying to resist the grief that it doesn’t have to be trauma. Dr Gabor Mate says that not allowing yourself to grieve causes trauma. That has helped me so much in healing!

Beautiful. Thank you ❤

I can listen this lady all the day ❤

Very similar story here. Last year, my mother was 61 and super healthy. It started with some tingling in her fingers, and after that, there were 6 VERY difficult months of seeing her slip away. Her body and mind changed so fast that I couldn't get used to it or accept her new phase. She was going fast, like dust in the wind… the love of my life, the person I loved most, the only one who loved me unconditionally. My recovery from that horrible loss and the terrible end we had together followed the same path of thoughts mentioned in these videos—explained in a different way, but the same… and that is incredible, because I find very similar stories in people who have shared the same pain

05/13/23 And still trying to cope. I am so sorry for your loss, but so thankful for you.

My dad died infront of me at 14 heart attack it changed the course of my life, my mom lung cancer when i was 31. 9ne happened fast the other 4 long years as suffering. Finding jesus was the only thing that helped me.

Wow! What a beautiful message. I’m going through my own remaking right now following a stroke at way too young of an age. It changed the fabric of me so much and I have no idea who I am now. It’s grief but for who I was. It certainly feels like I’m in the belly of the beast! I’m going to carry this message in my pocket as I get through this part. Hanging onto hope 💗

I lost my love 16 months ago and I still grieve. My love will go on until I am gone so, therefore, my grief will also.

What an amazing woman.

I've lost my son to suicide in October, we had a very fusional relationship, he had psycosis and lived with me for 11 years, I am SO BROKEN, I don't know what I'm doing here..but I have a beautiful daughter who is courageous for me, I feel I can't take my life, although I feel like a living dead. His music, his books he wrote, his empathy his gentleness,, I cant even go out in the sunshine it reminds me of him, Everyone keeps saying oh..it'll be better in summer.. but actualy I feel the opposite..everything beautiful reminds me of him. It feels utterly impossible to heal..the sea, the trees, the countryside, my garden… HOW do I continue..I need to become another human being than I am

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What a strong woman.

Just like a vase that is broken cannot put itself back together again, we (she) cannot put ourselves back together again. We need to let go, and let a higher power do that.

April 25th will mark the 4th year since a beautiful hs girlfriend (who I befriended as an adult but grew distant from because of life) passed away from cancer. I'd be lying if I said I am no longer affected by her death. I am forever changed. Not because I knew her and adored and loved her but because so many other people had a chance to be brightened by her and have lost that light. Her students, creative colleagues, students, froends, family, husband….I grieve for all of them and wish she would come to me and let me know it's ok to let go. I am still trying to figure out this. I wasn't aware and was hit by a bus from the news. I felt terrible, betrayed, guilty, lost. I became a cancer patient myself 2 years ago and struggle with surviving while pieces of me have died. I am so sorry for feeling this pain but will put 1 foot ahead of the other to find some semblance of peace in this loss and trauma. I am so sorry Tracey, you deserved so much more from life. Thank you for touching mine.