Give Your Parents a Break
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@julianbigelow2794
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
0:43– 0:51 I think that is a slight overstatement of a parent's contribution. I did not ask to be born, my parents made the free will choice to bring a child into the world.
@nicolevose3066
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
As a mother myself, I appreciated this video.
@Conner6742
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
What's talked about in this video kind of seems like adultism lite, which is something Cheyenne Linn talks about in her video but for a lot people in my generation it's really hard for us to give our parents a break because their "protection" left a lot of us inept in our adult lives and I'm only finally starting to process all of the bad feelings I've had towards my parents at 28 years old…almost in my 30s :/
My perception is probably pretty skewed since Facebook and Twitter keep recommending me people and pages that discuss generational trauma and mental health…but there's a very not insignificant amount of people who have had to really outgrow how we were raised as kids and it's only harder to know that in my daily life I interact with a lot of people who might have it well off enough that it's never something they have to think about or…even worse, I can kind of see that they have a lot of unpacked feelings that they were never able to fully process but this have to go through life kind of shoving it down.
I think it's fair to say that since every generation has to go through different issues, we can be lenient because a lot of people will live their lives never being educated about these kinds of things…I mean, I talked to my Gen Z cousin recently and I had the realization that his awareness over mental health and trauma is better in his teens than mine is now…but to give them a break and let them ignore a lot of the problems they can cause to their kids…it really doesn't sit well with me
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cFHwOV1404c
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hLVbsKF5cOA
@skellymom
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
Thank so much for your support! Although, I would add that it is good to tell your kid why you suggest or ask them to do something even if it seems self evident. Because "I said so" squashes free inquiry and encourages someone to follow a command with no substance behind it. I am raising a person, not a robot. So, while it takes time and can be not the easiest way to go, I explain to my kid the why. Great video.
@anniejefferson7614
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
❤❤ ❤❤ ❤. A well seasoned mom here of 26 and 16 year old boys. OMG I loved your video.
@mellonlord4616
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
Seriously. So much of this is keeping you alive. I'm watching two of my friends youngest kids tomorrow while she takes her oldest to all the therapies she has. This year at 16 she snuck out, was in a car accident and has a traumatic brain injury. She's pretty much gone.
When I had my oldest I went into preterm labor where dr are asking if we want to resuscitate or not….pain suffering and likely death or just hold her until she goes…
then my second, heart defect, choose a pig valve to replace the defective part and do this again every 5 years or a mechanical part that means she can't ever gave kids and has to take nasty blood thinners forever that will also damage her health….
ah choices.
And that was just my start at parenting. We haven't even started on poopy diapers.
@vamphyre73
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
Super late on this discussion but thought I'd give my 2 cents anyway. My main disagreement with this video is twofold. Children need to learn, and saying 'because I say so' and being overprotective doesn't let them do that. To be able to hone your decision making skills, you either A. need first hand experience, which overprotection makes impossible or B. need things explained so you know WHY to make certain decisions, which saying 'because I said so' makes impossible. Point is good decision making comes down to know /why/ a decision should be made whichever way. Holding children back from being taught the easy or hard way is counter-productive even if at the time it seems in their best interest. Let them fail, let them learn, let them discover while they still have that parental safety net.
p.s. Overprotection is not exactly just as simple as a curfew or whatever, it is not letting the child have any freedom and responsibility to explore and learn and make mistakes and especially the consequences of choices and decisions.
@CaptJosmy
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I'm gonna have to disagree on the "Because I said so". There is nothing worse than having someone telling you what to do and not telling you why. Maybe if you explain to me WHY I must do this I'll actually UNDERSTAND how it works, why it is good to do it, learn from it, and be able to do it on my own one day without needing your guidance every step of the way? Or even improve it!
And I can tell you that now that I am a little older (19) I can clearly see that most of my parents' "Because I said so" were just them being too lazy to explain shit or actually being plain wrong.
@incredulouschordate
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I like most of this, except that I think parents still owe their kids explanations for stuff. "Because I said so" is bullshit. Just tell them why!
An no, if a golfer tells me that, I'm gonna insist on getting an actual answer. Just because he knows more than me about golfing doesn't mean I can't use reason as well as he. If I ask him why I need to hold the iron a certain way, he can fucking tell me.
@ohhadivist
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
My relationship with my parents is super weird I guess. I'm 16 and we respect each other, like a lot. They let me do what I want, because they know I'm not stupid. Now when I say this a lot of people are like 'well that's bad parenting if you're allowed to make all your own decisions' and maybe that would be bad for some kids, but not me. They informed me on what's right and wrong and how to stay safe and now it's my job to act on that and I do it well.
Sometimes we disagree on things but we never full on argue because my whole family understands how to be mature. Like maybe it's because we all have genetic social and mental problems that many other families don't suffer as a whole that have caused us to stop worrying about petty things and focus on keeping everything positive and safe.
Just thought that was an interesting thing to share.
@Sad-leviathan
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
And honestly, I wouldn't take "because I said so" from a golfer either. If someone tells me to do something a certain way, and I ask why, and they reply with "because I said so", I'm not gonna fucking accept that. It's condescending and you deserve an explanation. You deserve to know why you're doing something. You deserve to know why you are punished, you deserve to know why your parents make the decisions they do for you, and you deserve to know why you have to swing the golf club that specific way and not any other way.
@Sad-leviathan
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I don't like the attitude you've had in this video, and by that I mean the idea you've upheld that you owe your parents for birthing you or providing you with basic needs.
You don't owe anybody anything for providing you with what you're legally entitled to.
@hannahvaldez6439
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
IM having a hard time with my son we were fighting so bad and so loudly that we got kicked out of our home ,,,, so this is a video that i will have him check out and again thanks for what you do ,, he is finally learning that he can't have his way,, and IM learning the way my mom spoke to me was a long time ago I just can't do what my mom did , but they will live the standers of not disrespecting me in my home IM going old school on his ass and I don't care who don't like it
@womenrespecter879
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
Love your videos but you clearly don't know shit about parenting
@CanadianRoadRunner3
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I'm the parent of three. I love this advice. Well said.
@cathy.m.2265
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
Hey Kevin, 1st, I will subscribe to your Subbable channel, i'm just a little broke right now.I did want to thank you for making your videos. I use them to communicate with my son. It's tough to talk about trolling, gamergate, misogyny, feminism, and get to sharing other information when those are in the way. So thank you. Ideas for videos, GMOs and what they are, what they do to our land, to our bodies, and what this company Monsanto is doing in third world countries. It's being done here. I've seen land in Georgia that was barren for 15-20 yrs. after planting GMOs for 5 years without rotation, because of no natural nutritions remained in the soil and that was in the 70's.
Water is another concern of the future. But also how countries are almost giving the supply to large companies, diverting water from communities, and then it's sold it to us. I don't think water should be taxed or sold.
Then if the American's had gone with Nicolas Tesla inventions in electricity, we could all be driving flying cars today. Tesla wanted free electricity for all and Thomas Edison & JP Morgan saw wealth. It's like is a war on the masses, with only a the rich survive and some slaves left for work & sport. Also Tesla is a good example of the media spin doctor's early work.
I don't agree with all you said, think "men"s issues" and there is some rote party lines you restate, but overall great, thanks & God's bliss to you. C.M.
@jazzhandshidea
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I sent my parents a link to this video, along with an expression of gratitude for the good job they did raising me. Your video is actively helping families. 🙂 Keep up the good work!
@KalinTheZola
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I wasn't a perfect kid by any means, and yes until March of next year I'm still living with my parents, but I grew up with a lot more insight than most of my peers. To the point that even in Kindergarten, I told off a group of girls for bad mouthing their parents and saying how they couldn't wait to grow up so they could boss their own kids around. I get a lot of my insight from my own mother in fact. Though sometimes I felt it was unwarranted, I would often tell my parents that I understood why they were punishing me over something I did wrong and that I would do my best to not make the mistake again, and I was one of the few kids that when someone says "you'll understand when you're older," I for the most part already did understand a lot of it.
@SuprememessageNG
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
Wasn't the song in the end from Timesplitters? I fucking love that game.
@hjghjgjhhjkhklk2683
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
a video on breastfeeding censorship? also love your vids, you are modern jesus
@DFAMaeve
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
While I'm not a parent, I would never want my child to sit back and take "Because I said so." I want them to recognize that I have a significant amount more life experience, and in turn, generally better judgement, but I also want my child to understand the reasoning behind my decisions and, as a result, feel the need to have reasons and explanations for their actions.
Responses like, "Because I said so," close up the opportunity to communicate, which I am fundamentally against. Not to mention it increases the chances of a kid growing up with the impression that they shouldn't challenge authority, which can kinda be a bad thing.
@MJLionnavy
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I have issues with this kind of videos because since I turned 9 my mom has been an alcoholic and she tends to get verbally violent, and since she had a very time demanding job, the only time I could spend time with her was when she was drinking, she regularly criticized and insulted me, she also yelled at me and more often than not followed me around the house to keep insulting me while I was trying to run away from her. We also lived with her husband which was also her boss and also an alcoholic, so all financial income depended from him and he was rude to me on a regular basis and careless about my needs. Since I was 9 I had to do my own cooking and laundry, and by the time I was in highschool it wasn't weird that I had to buy my own deodorant or shampoo and stuff like that from my scolarship money. So it was a story of psychological abuse and overall neglect, and every single time I complained to a teacher, school counselor or psychologist they gave me this kind of crap.
@gophergun
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I watched all of your videos in one burst (possibly a bad decision, considering the time), and your thoughts on "because I said so" were really the first ones I even kind of disagree with. Sometimes they say it because you're being a brat and they don't have the patience to explain. Sometimes they think you won't be able to understand the explanation. Maybe they're on a power trip, or maybe it's based on a belief they have that doesn't have much basis in reality. None of these are good reasons to not even try to explain something to your kid, and it doesn't help them understand. Furthermore, without that understanding, it's unlikely it will become a habit for them.
@victoriathomas731
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
….this is why i think the whole anti-aging mania in contemporary culture is really stoopit. None of my role models are 19 years old…youth is not an accomplishment. Experience and expertise are…..yes, i am old. What of it? DJMD
@hahakid29
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I desperately how I have access to this video when my 2 1/2 year old is a teenager. I remember me as a teenager and this would have suited me well.
The nice thing about recognizing the few mistakes my parents made as an adult is that history is not doomed to repeat itself (at least not in this house).
@carpefuego
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
Presumably… one of the your parents' goals is to keep you alive.
@mommyofone646
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I just have to say, my parents were straight up bad parents, and "because I said so" was a daily phrase. The thing about that particular phrase is that it doesn't teach anything aside from "follow authority because authority says so". It took a really really long time for me to properly be able to think for myself and make good decisions because I wasn't taught critical thinking. So with my daughter, every time she asks a question, I am more than happy to explain to her. She gets it, and she does what I ask her to. We communicate very openly and she is one of the smartest children I know (and I'm not just saying that because I am her mom lol). Just a different perspective that, in my opinion, really works with teaching kids how to think for themselves. After all, you have only 18 years to teach them how to survive for the next 70.
@CorbiniteVids
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
Kids in my area really do have overprotective parents. They decide who their kids can associate with, they hardly let them go anywhere without tagging along, and they're constantly worrying that their kids will get into trouble, even when the kids are incredibly responsible.
@kelllyjelllybellly
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I just wanna say that I love all of your videos! Keep on doing what you're doing!
@jordanmrodgers
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
yeah yeah thanks dad i know Leon Rodgers
@Katness07
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
Thanks, from a mom, for the shout out. My son is 23, and still gets free room & board, in exchange for work done around the house & yard that I don't have time for.
@xo-theforest
March 26, 2026 at 8:14 pm
I also felt you could have touched on the subject of.. well, I'm not one of them, but a lot of people grow up astrainged from their parents because of their upbringing, and I have the notion that you just don't get to choose who your family is unless you marry them, and a lot of people hate being with them even when they do choose who it is.
But otherwise; kind of like you were picked out of a jelly bean bowl and put in to a bowl of similar jelly beans. Dirt flavored jelly beans, and you're the one bubblegum flavored one, if that's a good enough comparison for some people, eheh.
I feel it's ok if you don't like the people you are forced to be with, because it's just that; you're forced to be with them. Now maybe you can grow up trying to understand them, to like them, be like them, but the ultimate thing is once you're an adult, you can make the choice to continue to share your time with them, or move on. Or like most people do, see them once or twice a year for the holidays and then go back to ignoring each other and talking about the others behind their backs.
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