@NS-pj8dr

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

I would add: its okay to not know things. pretty much because i always feel like an idiot when i don't know something everyone else seems to know, but really why should i, or why should anyone? nobody knows everything, and if you dont know something, its simply because you haven't encountered it yet, which is probably not your fault, no big deal. but i often feel in the internet era, there's this sense that whatever is currently "going on" whatever people/ the internet are currently talking about, everyone just sort of starts conversations with the assumption that you have been updated as of 5 seconds ago. which is fine i guess, but i guess i just get tired of feeling like i need to be on top of all this shit just to be apart of "the conversation"
@rv706

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

What if "awkwardness" leads other people to gently avoid you and gracefully exclude you from a group? What if this happens in every group?
@spookywizard4980

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

Lolz "vast minority" Erm… awkward situations are unpleasant…hence people not liking them…I don't really get what you mean by they're ok. They're not something you want that's for sure.
@phoenixpills

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

Being trans has caused the biggest change in my life in like a trillion different ways. In not the obvious ways even but just like shit I like and the music I listen to and the clothes I wear or the things I'm into are just fucking flying around like mad and I have to constantly admit that I was wrong about "X" or something was wrong in order to figure out what the shit is going on.
@fireynight9296

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

Can I just say I love this channel, like seriously who go's into discussions like this, it's amazing. 😀
@loosekarrott

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

I'll fight you over Fightclub, come at me.
@masterford22

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

I can't say I disagree with your views on awkwardness and being wrong but, I can't side with you on change. I'm only nineteen but I've never had a "I'll never change" phase and at this age I don't think I will. I often feel I can't change fast enough. I'm not saying that every teenager wants to change and I don't think that you're saying that teenagers don't want to change. I just feel like this video didn't give a fully rounded explanation on change; which I feel is the biggest of the three.
@thepeacefish

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

Please raise my kids.

No romo.
@Raddland

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

Man, I have been saying this stuff to friends and family any time there are interesting conversations that veer in to this territory. It seriously put the biggest smile on my face, and the warmest feeling in my heart to know that there are others who seemingly arrive at a verbatim understanding. This video will no doubt help a lot of people who were not fortunate enough to be raised with the best examples and precedents. Good work, man!
@kiba6601

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

You can be perfect and also a human. It's just impossible
@MrE517

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

Thank you for your video. I especially like "thing 2" here. The best part about being wrong is that it necessarily means we have stumbled upon the opportunity to reform ourselves and be right about things, or to at least be better adapted to handle life pragmatically. This evident societal value (in some, but not all places) of universal opinion, where we limit our responsiveness to criticism or the expressed "facts" or opinions of others, to instead deny or ignore such claims through a perceived lack of credibility, exhibits our fundamentally irrational trust in the claims of credibility by all sources. Even when we trust scientists on their word (I'm not saying you shouldn't) we are appealing to authority. We should trust scientists because of the nature of their work and the overall track record of scientific discovery, thus allowing us to inductively infer a reasonable trust. The point here is that when people make claims that challenge our notions of epistemic "truth", instead of immediately discounting their lack of credibility, we should explore, at least to a practical degree, the central reason (validity and soundness) behind the claims as they exist in themselves, and not as authoritative assertions that we are free to discount. For anyone interested in further exploring the notion I have alleged here, the logical fallacy is called: "Argument from Authority" or "Appeal to Authority". Also, one might want to research "Inductive Reasoning". It is an integral part of our scientific understanding. Keep in mind, I am no authority and I do not claim to be, so if you truly wish to refute me, do so by exploring what I've said and convincing yourself emphatically that I am wrong.
@ascvb3

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

I hate being wrong, but love being corrected because I learned.
@sonicthehedgegod

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

ngl i watched this when it came out and like the awkwardness thing has already made like immense changes in the way i interact with people.

not just like, going out of my way to be awkward or being awkward wanton disregard for everyone's comfort zones, but just like having accepted that awkwardness is just inherently GONNA be a part of the equation makes me about 500x smoother in the event. same with silence. it's just gonna happen, let it happen, it's totally fine. all that shit.

great video. probably one of the most helpful i've seen.
@johnsmith-tc2qn

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

I enjoy your videos and appreciate your views on things. I try to be a decent person and as you stated we all have our flaws I suppose but being willing to make changes to continually rework ourselves to be a better person is the key to being happy and a person others want to be associated with.
@AlexHolland123

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

The part on awkwardness was actually comforting to me, cause I get mad at myself when I'm awkward
@dieintheattempt1

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

How are long silences between people considered awkward in an ordinary conversation? Maybe it's some kind of cultural difference, but I never got that. Silence is just a part of interaction. Feeble small talk can be awkward, uncomfortable and sometimes intrusive, and I used to wonder why people would do that if they really had nothing to say to me.
@laurenelise1810

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

Hey mr. janitor. I'd really like to hear your thoughts on expectations of boys and girls in school settings, particularly highschool.. Double standards, what's considered "the norm", etc. Much love for you and your hair 💗
@Dotherandom

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

I think YOU should get a Ted talk. Also what you said about when things are "awkward" cause you run out of things to say so just don't say anything? EXACTLY I LOVE people that I can just sit in silence with. Some times there's just nothing to say and it's nice to just relax and enjoy one another's company.
@OMGitsAraa

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

I can't tell you how much I needed to see this video…I still cringe at a past conversation I had when I said something that didn't pertain to what everyone else was talking about and just remembering how stupid I felt. And yes, it was awkward. But watching this video made me realize that everyone fucks up, and everyone feels awkward and everyone can grow from their experiences. So I just wanted to say thank you for making this video. I can't speak for everyone else, but it really helped me 🙂
@d1s3ng4gE

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

I'm curious how your thoughts on the movie Fight Club changed from when you watched it while younger. There are a lot of intricacies to the movie that I keep discovering each time I watch it.
@GermanEnglishman

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

This was a great video! I really appreciate you talking about this.

I disagreed with you about the description of the "perfect" person without realizing that it was my description I was comparing it to at first. But three differences in my version were exactly the 3 points you talked about 😀
@desolate0bliss

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

I feel like being okay with being wrong is one of those things that we face on such a huge scale — from a big issue like our politic or religious thoughts/feelings, but also down to a coworker/fellow student/whatever pointing out an error in your work. We have such a problem with being wrong in any capacity at all and we quickly jump to justify all of our actions that lead up to that point. Making one mistake out of the 300 accounts you work on at work doesn't make you a bad person, and your first response to the person that pointed it out shouldn't automatically be to jump to the defense and try to think of every possible reason as to why you did what you did and how it wasn't really your mistake. I just get bummed that we've put ourselves into that position — where we can't accept any mistake we might make because it's somehow a reflection on how we are as a person, and that person can't be seen as someone that is flawed at all. We're all a bunch of weirdos.
@WarpScanner

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

I agree with all of this, with one minor exception. I feel like if I had been told my identity at the time was 'just a phase' I don't think I'd be insulted by the idea that I would change out of it but that describing it as just a phase implies that it's meaningless and doesn't effect anything or that it can be dismissed. I can understand finding that enraging and unfair.

Disclaimer: I was a pretty well behaved and boring kid. Fairly dull as well. I don't think I adopted much of a personality outside of being just sort of a weirdo. I never had this discussion with anyone over my identity and I don't think I really experienced a phase like one of these.
@divinehag8039

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

Great video. I work with children. It is amazing how many adults will be mean to a child who points out something an adult does or says that is obviously wrong.
@KurtisC93

January 29, 2026 at 10:06 am

The example you used for your third point is actually a bit ironic in my case. When I first watched Fight Club, I thought it was a pretty good movie, but not all it was cracked up to be. It just seemed way too cynical to be insightful on a meaningful level, and I couldn't really relate to the whole "buying things we don't need" to "impress people we don't like" thing. Since then, I've come to identify with its distaste for modern society.